I will probably call her so as not to guilty. It will annoy me that she'll tell all the family who will publically (fb) talk about how they love our dd so much all while not ever bothering to contact us or her ever. The old actions speak louder than words... Of course that would apply to me as well and I am no longer putting myself out there to them. Around and around I go.
Jdtm: thanks for cutting through the emotions of it to a bottom line question, I needed that.