Yes, I know I'm jumping the gun because it's a couple of weeks away but I was in a store today and they were full of the "Mother's Day" type gifts, etc. etc. etc.
I decided that this year, I'm not going to observe Mother's Day, it will just be another Sunday or if I choose to at the last minute, I'll do something special or go some place that I'm interested in.
Gonna sit around and mope? NOPE, NOPE, NOPE!
Keep your expectations at 0 and you won't be disappointed because that's the difference between and adventure and an ordeal.
KG
I went out and bought myself a fountain for on my front porch for Mother's Day! I'm not telling Kirk and my extended family or they'll think they have to pay for it! LOL!
Oh man, I'd forgotten all about it 'til you mentioned it! ;)
As brave as I act, there is still a little part of me that would love to be honored and cherished. I usually do something for myself, and I'm OK with it...says she, whistling in the dark.
In terms of being a mother, it's a job I wish I could resign from, so I'm on board not expecting anything. One year for Mother's Day I got an IOU for a Vera Bradley bag that I never got. (It's ok, I don't like them anyway. They look like diaper bags to me. haha)
OK, to be fair, my older kids have started getting the hang of it, sending cards and calling. I'm just bitter this year because my youngest is being such a monster and the DD who lives here for free is being obtuse.
This year, instead of caring about myself, I'm going to give my lovely sweet little 80 year old mother a special day. My husband's mother died when he was 21, so he thinks of her as his mother too.
I think I'll dig up the rose bush my father gave me many years ago and transplant it at her house. He died in October and my mother misses him terribly. I'm leaving here in a year or so, and then she'll be missing me and my DH. Maybe having the rose bush will be a comfort and remind her of Dad, and my DH and me.
Maybe put in a fountain too, I like that idea, thanks Luise.
Well I"m now getting the idea that since DD has married a non-family involvement for holidays, specail occasions,birthdays guy( except for him) I might be sending myself my own cards, so I think i need to start going to get them for the year when they go on sale after each occasion. Only one child and two step sons , so far the ss seem to appreciate me more than the new sil but dd was always on top of it all until marriage to SIL. So I think I need to ponder how to celebrate , enjoy, life and be so thankful for what i do have as i know there are always others in worse shape , worst stories than myself so I need to appreciate what i do have . One day these AC will grow up , look back and see things as their kids will be old enough to be putting them in the spots they have put us . I love holidays and special times , oh let me rephrase that I use to love the,m .
I'm torn between hoping DS ignores it, or sends me a nice, neutral card. I am -not- looking forward to some passive aggressive jab like what happened on my birthday. I can understand, from his perspective, why he might be mad at me and not inclined to observe the day. But, I'd be much happier just not hearing from him at all than getting something snide. We'll see.
we have had mother's Day here .....I got a card from each of my AC .....that if ok with me , at least they remembered .
Gifts and flowers at that time are overpriced .
I remember a few years ago I treated myself to a fountain for the garden , so yes ladies , why not make it
a new ritual .Why wait for gifts when we can treat ourselves . This year I bought two lovely china mugs !
I'm going to get some vegs to plant and try the new way to do tomatoes. I was told just plant them in a bag of potting soil right on top of the ground. When season is over , either just throw it all away or use the soil that is good in some other plants. So I'll have fun doing that. So far this year has been not the same as past so I'll treat myself for md and bd LOL
We call them gro bags , three plants to a.bag , some canes to support the trusses and wallah ! Tomato heaven . Lol
ok you r on LL, wonder if i can do a few other things like that too. I'm going tomorrow and start this not so green thumb garden. Not too big but a few things . Now do you just get a reg bag of potting soil or any special kind ?
Not being in your country I'm not sure , here they will have what they are best suited for on the outside of the bag .
You lay them in situ horizontally , slit the tops where you want to plant and thats all there is to it .
Not sure if they are available in the US.
We have to wait until the frost season has finished if they are to be outside , they are perfect for a glass/green house .
Oh and they need lots of feed throughout the growing season , and they are very thirsty .
They stay in the bag until finished , then you have wonderful potting compost .
Maybe Google Growing Bags , to see whats available where you live .
Happy Planting ...:)
Thanks I'll look tomorrow. I was just told potting soil , I know they have the hanging tomatoe bags but those thingsdidn't work for me as they dry out so fast or might just be where i had them. Do you put other vegs in them ?
When the kids were little, I always asked for a flat of flowers for the yard for Mother's day and then they would help me plant them. When DS was about 5 or 6 he started bringing me "breakfast" in bed- which he made by hiimself. DD also helped to carry on this tradition,even after the divorce when I moved away. Don't get me wrong - they've missed a few along the way - but for the most part MDay was always good. This year i will celebrate being a first - time Grandma . Hope my son remembers to bring his WIFE breakfast in bed !!!!!Doubt if I will see them for Mother's Day - but who knows ?????
LOVE, love LOVE the tomato plant in the bag of soil idea !!! Gotta try that !
My XH's birthday is May 13.
He has always liked to celebrate it on Sunday of his BD week for some reason.
Guess which Sunday that usually is? (Mother's Day) I don't put much stock in that day since my kids celebrate his BD with him, and I curse the day he was born. :D
Mother's day is for my Mother. I think I'll bring over stuff to make Mojitos and baked Brie. She'll like that.
When my mother is gone, I think I'll go to a nursing home and treat someone there to some love.
I have a rebellious spirit. My hubby and I boycott almost every holiday. We have more fun creating our own than following the masses.
constantmargaret you are too funny, wow that sounds like a good treat to eat on Mother's day. I am with you on DH and me doing our own thing , we say we need to do that as knowing how other friends have been left high and dry when their kids take off and go on vacation for the holidays . WE did start a tradition on Christmas eve with some family, lots of friends , their kids we have Chinese Santa ( or dirty Santa) , we do good gifts not strange ones, everyone brings food , the kids decorate Xmas cookies, have their own gift exchange , and we are keeping it no matter what. If our kids can come fine if not than we will see then before or after Xmas, so far dd and sil did come til the baby. WE figure we will get old and lots that come will so we will have a place to go when our of the kids have other plans without us . This is our 5th year and it has grown. Now i need to see how to pull off some of the other holidays lol
Ok ahead of the game , got the new tomatoe planting method done yesterday along with a few other veggies planted but we had very hard rains last night and still drizzling today so when i get my nerve up going to make sure everything didn't get washed away. My luck I'll be repeating work lol
Re: M-Day
I'm heading to a reunion of old friends the day before & may or may not be home for "the day that shall not be named." DH always says "You're not my mom" & DS will likely be at DIL's DM's celebration as usual. DDD will be sad, but she only comes for the food, lol.
It's a good idea to have a plan :)
The fountain I ordered for myself for Mother's Day came and it's darling. It makes the prettiest sound and reminds me that my mothering is about me and who I have become and how much being a mother helped with the process of maturing and finding self-worth. I did a fabulous job! What my eldest DS did with that was about him, not me, and I am rejoicing in my success! :-)
Yes I agree Luis and glad your fountain is wonderful for you. So far so good on the plantings and a few new shrubs i put out , ( for me lol ) . We have had winter weather here in the south this week so i do hope all if did won't be in vain. Now to see what other trouble i can get into for my Mother's day treats. lol
Oh I forgot about Mothers Dayb ??? Could skip it happily.
Have a plan, TMB...go do something fabulous for yourself. Hiking, biking, painting, beach day, gallery crawl, bra fitting, what have you :)
Now Pen that bra fitting idea is a hoot, that might be the last place i would have thought of for Mother's day, but a good one lol
Hey, what could be more uplifting? Lol
:D :D :D
Hi all,
In the past my two sisters and I would talk about where we would like to go on MD and then the cousins would take us to dinner. This year my son is going through a divorce, so my grandson won't be with us for the first time ever. That will be very sad. Even though DS and I haven't been close (I won't go into the whole story, that's been covered), he has never forgotten me on MD. This year it will probably be just the two of us, and that will be good, because I have some (good) things to say to him, not for GS's ears.
BTW, A couple of weeks ago a friend of DS died, one who was close to his age. DS was with him when he passed away; and that does change us forever. I am glad that he was a good friend to the very end and admire him for that. He is still processing it all and I think he's rethinking his thinking.
Anyway, I didn't mean to hijack, only to say it's amazing how things can change. I believe prayer works.
Glad to hear your DS is going to be with you, SusieQ. I'm sorry for his loss, but it sounds as if it has opened his eyes.
I shall visit my Mom and my MIL in celebration of Mother's Day and let them both know how much I appreciate them and value them.
Quote from: Pooh on April 30, 2012, 09:38:30 AM
I shall visit my Mom and my MIL in celebration of Mother's Day and let them both know how much I appreciate them and value them.
Good idea. On a perfect Mother's Day, the only people who should be home are the oldest moms whose moms have passed. Everyone else should be out visiting their moms!
Doe
that is exactly what I thought it should be but now that the DD is a first time mother instead of bringing gs to see me she is expecting me to drive there . I";m the oldest and that is how I was raised we went to the grandmother's , after her death to my mothers ( who died way to early at 67). So I guess things have changed but I'd really like the way I was raised but I can see those days are long gone i think.
Since my mom & MIL passed long ago & DS will be w/his MIL, unless DH suddenly comes up w/ a better idea I'm going for a bra fitting. :D That pretty much guarantees I'll be alone on Mother's Day, lol.
Not in my house...DH would want to go with me! ;D
Lucky you ;)
This year I'm not limited to Betty's Big & Wide "boulder holder" bra store (yay me!) For the first time in many years I get to go to the pretty, pink-striped store, IYKWIM. Hmm, come to think of it, my DH might want to go this time...
Quote from: Pen on April 27, 2012, 08:00:39 PM
Hey, what could be more uplifting? Lol
Groooooooooan!!!! ;)
Yay for everyone who is taking care of themselves! Yay for senses of humor and being able to laugh!
I have been dreading this year's Mother's Day. It will be the second one since my son stopped speaking to me and the first one since my own mother died.
My kids had been making it a nice day for me as they became grownups. We were all in England a few years ago (yes, I took all four of my kids to England; we had a wonderful, wonderful time) when the American Mother's Day fell and they made a big fuss, had flowers delivered to the hotel for me, took me out for dinner. We were a happy family.
Everything has changed since I was diagnosed with MS five years ago. Our family has fallen apart, the kids are unable to cope with me being sick.
As for my own mother, Mother's Day was usually dreaded too, because she had expectations she would never share and if you didn't guess what she wanted correctly she went into a major snit. Oy vey, the stress!! It was not fun. But it has been nine months since she died and I find myself actually missing her a little! Even though she was abusive when I was a child and could be impossible since I grew up, she was just a sad, damaged person. She did have her good days when it could actually be nice to talk to her. She loved movies and books and I know she would be thrilled to see how much my granddaughter looks like her. It is just so sad that she had an unhappy life and now she is gone.
Sigh.
I am going to use some of your ideas here and plan a good day for myself!!
Love it, CityGirl! I've taken Mothers Day back too and I'm not guilty. For me, it's pajama day and family fun day. I'm not going to tip toe around and have someone try to make me feel bad on a day that I'm supposed to enjoy too, so if you're not going to be in a good mood and join the fun then that's fine, just don't be around me!
We always spent Mothers Day with my mom until she passed two yrs ago at the wonderful age of 89.I miss treating hen that special or any day really.This year my ODS is visiting the weekend before.On MD weekend he has a fitness competicionwi tht his new GF is in.So DH will take me to dinner.I guess I must learn to take the quality time I have with D S.He is going for a massage and treating his mom to a pedicure.I am so lucky.I miss my YDS on these special days.YDS commited suicide eleven yrs ago.YDS was only twenty one.Such a waste of a beautiful intelligent muscian.Sorry for rambling on.Just a little sad.Have a great Mothers Day everyone.u/
Oh I miss MD doing for my mother as she was so sweet and easy to do for , always so loving and kind to everyone . I always told myself if I could be half the mother she was to us I"d be awesome. She died when I was 34 so we didn't get time to share the time of my adult life where I'd be able to tell her how right she was on things as now I could identify with it as i had a child . DD was 4 when her "granna" died. Not sure yet what MD will be for me , DD still wants me to come up there ,as it is her first md ,but the way my sfn( small fiber neuropathy ) has been of late the ride in the car up and back will totally do me in for days. I"ll do it if i have to ( put up with that rude SIL) but I'd do a lot better if here as the stress doesn't help the nerve fibers either. I think a bra fitting would really be a grand idea , I might have to go for one of those black lacy ones and hope dh doesn't see it lol. I"m loving all the cool suggestions , might put them in a MD box for future MD's lol
Nikncon, so sorry this time of year brings back sad memories. Everyone with sadness tied to a certain holiday has to get through all the advertising and well-wishing somehow. It's difficult to avoid. (((hugs))) Enjoy dinner w/DH, the visit w/DS & the pedi.
Thanks Pen.Have a nice Mothers Day too.Whatever you decide to do.Enjoy yourself.
I do believe I will get a table I want for the kitchen for mother's day....a tall cafe style one that I've had my eye on at the lil antique store....I'll send my mom something in the mail since her phone is now shut off (unless she gets it turned back on) and I cannot get into her apt building at all and she lives on the second floor.
I will not hold my breath for my DD to do anything and I have been thinking the husband and I will take that day to go to our favorite fishing hole. The fishing hole helps one to just "fuget aboud it". That will do just fine for me.
I hope you all have a HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY no matter what.
Sounds perfect ;)
Full steam ahead, M-Day here we come!
I've been dreading MD.. I'm certain my son will call me to say "Happy Mother's Day" He will not send a card. He will not come over with a token gift. What do I say to him when he calls? I will say "thanks". That's about it. I will NOT say "Where the heck are you?" I will NOT say "When are you coming over to see me?" I will NOT make my feelings known. Because to do so will tick him off.. Then instead of 1 month without hearing from him... it will be 2 months. I have to ask myself... WHY do I care so much what he thinks? My relationship with him now is superficial at best. I don't know what's going on in his life. I don't know how he is doing on his job, or if he ever got that promotion to store manager. Why should I feel this hurt? The reality is that he has become nothing more than an acquintance I hear from once in a while. "How are you?" is not supposed to be followed by anything but "Fine". He really doesn't want to hear about my bum knee or my high cholesterol numbers. I don't really have anything to talk to him about. Has anyone else just considered breaking it off? I do sometimes. Then I can't.
Yup, I have thought about it to spare myself the pain of rejection over and over again. And, like you, I can't yet. First of all, we had a pretty good relationship before and I still harbor some hope we can get it back. We raised an intelligent, interesting young man who received a great education (thanks to us), and I guess I hope that we can enjoy his brilliant company & scintillating conversation once again, lol. Second, I'm just ornery enough to not want DIL/her FOO to have the satisfaction.
L. - My sense when I got to that place, is that it already had been broken off...and what was left was an empty shell. The last Mothers Day before my eldest son died so unexpectedly at age 52, a gift was again delivered from a florist. It was a coffee cup that said, "Big Hug Mug" with a little stuffed bear holding onto the handle and was full of multicolored daisies. I knew the reminder had come up on his computer, the call to the florist was automatic and shehad picked it out. Looking back, I think he probably wished things were different as much as I did. But he had made up that I was wicked witch of the West forty years earlier and somewhere along the way it became "fact."
Well all of my humor is fading the closer I get to Mother's Day as I still have no idea where or how DD and I will be sharing my 31st and her 1st. I just wish gs, DD and I could share it together as we would have such a good time together as we always do and have for so very long . If SIL has to be a part of it that will take the air out of the whole day for me . I'll have to be the always happy, funny , loving mom that I always am when I'm with her while my insides fill like crap when having to be around him with his " attitude' . That is so very hard to balance and to keep on doing takes a toll on me . Right now with some health issues going on and new meds it is making it extremely hard to be upbeat vs cry from the chronic pain of the newly diagnosed neuropathy. So being my old self would be hard now even if SIL didn't have the " i don't want any family mine or yours in our life " attitude. i just hope and pray by MD I can be in a better mood than I am now . thanks for being there . this week might prove to be one of my toughest yet.
AL - We're with you. Sending love...
I suppose that next Sunday I will go out and buy my own petunias and spend the day in the yard making it pretty... with hubby and the dogs. Then I will either cook something I want to eat... OR send hubby out for take out. I may have a glass of wine and watch a movie in the evening while getting ready for the following workweek. I have no idea if DS will stop over with the kids. If he does, it will be because they are visiting with DILs mother who happens to live just a few miles from here. If he doesn't come over, the excuse will be that he has to work. It's always the same. I have to find something within myself that will make the day good. I'm a mom... I have been one for 42 years. I have earned the right to feel good on MD whether anyone else thinks so or not, or wheter anyone else even gives it a thought.
I"ll also be thinking of my own mother I lost 28 years ago ( way too soon at age 65) , missing her hugs, kisses and that feeling that she could make me feel that things will be OK. I looked forward to Mother's Day being able to treat her to a very special day and really surprise her with something I knew she wanted or needed but wouldn't splurge on herself to get it . Special days are hard when families have issues but mothers really have problems on Mother's Day when it comes to their ac with problems. I do hope and pray that everyone on here is surprised by your Ac this year. Love and hugs to all mothers .
And a good one! No one can alter that fact! We gave them Life and a great start. What they did/do with them is about them not us. Yes, we all had expectations...who wouldn't? And if those expectations bring us sadness instead of joy...there are other options. Lets see...ah...ere...
Please someone, help me out here...
OK...what I come up with is that the other "choice" for me would have been not to be a mom. And I can honestly say that it was the greatest experience of my life and offered me the most, even if it cost me the most. Nope, I really wouldn't change that, no matter what.
Sending love...
Lately I've been feeling less and less like a mother and more and more like a person. I can't say that I'm not a mom any more but I'm getting to the point of caring less about that role and more about my future plans. Being a mom has been one of my life's great experiences but I feel its time to graduate into Mom Emeritus, or maybe Emerita?
That is an interesting question, Luise, the other choice about not being coming a mom. I have often thought about that as I do not look forward to mother's day at all. I have never had anything done special for me on that day, so the approach of it makes me sad. I know I will do something for me that I do like, but it still makes me sad that I have all those children and no one really thinks to help me celebrate in any way by going out of their way to do so. My life would have been so different if I had not had children and would I be happier? I do not know, but I can not help think there is a 50% chance that I probably would have been. Motherhood took too much of me (and those children are still taking), and it is hard to put a lot of effort back into just me now. Now, if I had to advise someone as to whether they should become a mother I know what my answer would be. It would be no. But I think that is something that could not be totally explained to someone unless they experience it. My best day on mother's day is to try not to think about it.
That is so honest. I admire you for that. Hindsight can be so different. And for me, it can change from one day to the next. I had a very close friend that never had children. She frankly admitted that she didn't want to "take the back seat" and not be the center of attention. Just before she passed on she told me she was wrong because she would have liked a son like my youngest, Kirk, (our WWU Webmaster,) who is now very focused on my welfare (albeit from afar.) When I told her she might have gotten a Kirk and she might not have...she seemed surprised. I look back and wonder why one son loathed me and one loves and respects me. I can't find an answer. Had I had two that saw me as my eldest did, I would probably agree with you. What a price to pay for being a loving person and giving your all.
somom,
that is sad that you feel that way, :( no matter how my DD's make me feel i still loved being a Mom, especially when they were growing up, however although wanting 4 children i only ended up for various reasons with 2. Do you think that sometimes family size makes a difference?
Although my YDD in particular is not easy to get along with and even worse since she moved out, i wish her happiness, i don't wish she hadn't been born.
I hope with time your own children realise what a wonderful DM they have and how wrong they were to neglect you. My own DM died when i was 7 years old, and although i only remember bits of what she was like i miss her all the time. :(. So i never had an opportunity for a close relationship with my DM like yours could with you.
Like you i wish YDD in particular thought more of me to see me more often, but you cant force things, you can only hope it gets better as they get older and hopefully wiser. You sound a good but very weary DM, it sad your AC have made you feel that way.
Jill x
That's the catch all isn't it. We cannot choose how they all turned out. I do have so many very wonderful and happy moments raising my children and watching them succeed in so many areas. I have some very successful children no doubt. But, the price paid for all that and to watch them evolve into adulthood with so many issues and bad temperaments has definitely taken a huge toll. Even though I am married, I pretty much raised and guided my children with very little, emotional support from my husband. He was absent (by his choice) emotionally and still is. I am shocked at the result of all my hard work. I am just saying putting it all in the pot it is like luise said a great price to pay. My adult children may never be thankful for the dedication I gave but I know what I did as I get older and think about it all. Even with all my successes and love for my children and personal sacrifice, looking back what I know now I might choose something different.
Getting used to no kids visiting me, (well, they'll be at the other foo) but I know this and not gonna mope this time, no!
Already planned: no tv commercials to watch (ridiculous!)
Will probably get a phone call, card, probably no present...
Told dh he can bbq for me or take me out to dinner. He'll get me a card, all that I want. Sometimes flowers. To a movie if I want!
For the first time, not angry or disappointed! Yay!
Might try out that new church bc we'll be in town for a change!
(success story! finally facing facts!)
I'm with Luise on this one. I wouldn't trade being a Mom for anything in the world. I have wonderful memories, I learned so much and laughed so much. If I knew now what was going to happen with OS, I would still have chosen to do it.
And just so you guys know, I spoke too soon! Mother's day will now be spent at a family reunion at my MIL's house. MIL has a 94 year old Aunt who they have decided to honor this Mother's day by all her kids coming in (6 of them spread out over the United States). I called my Mom and told her what was happening and would she be Ok with us coming over Saturday instead? Her response? "Oh my yes. 94 and 6 kids! She deserves a medal, not a Mother's day card!"
Got to love my Mom for being so understanding and my MIL for giving up her day to celebrate her Aunt's life. Lesson learned from both of them: Life is about love, not a title.
Will your family adopt me, Pooh?
wow she needs to adopt lots of us
They will! The more the merrier :)
Well, the ones that are saying they don't usually get anything (except maybe a card) are not alone. Every year, I round up my mom, my daughter, and my sister who lost her one and only chance at a child to a tubal pregancy years back. We always include my sister because we will never forget that special little someone.
Anyway, I am the one who spends all the $ for us all to go out (for my mom and daughter anyway)every year and usually initiate the effort as well. This will be my daughter's first mother's day of her own (even though she has 2 stepsons previously before her own daughter was born). With all that has happened, I am feeling drained thinking of it again. I have felt unappreciated and that it hasn't really mattered to anyone and I have always felt I "forced" it on them. I calmly (or should I say defeatedly) figured this year everyone can be on their own and I will treat myself.
My mom's phone finally got turned back on but I have already sent her and my sis something in the mail to get in time for mother's day. I stopped by my daughter's and gave her a card with flowers and wished her a happy 1st mother's day. (just something the women in our family does even though most just do for their mom's, we celebrate collectively, even though I'm lucky to get a card and sometimes not that). I did make plans with my mom on an off day though for us to get together and I'll do her hair (perm, I used to be a hairdresser before I was a nurse) and we'll eat, drink, and be merry that day together. She was all for it. Lo and behold, when I told my daughter (who has become quite accustomed to me doing all the work for everyone) that I was going to have grandma over on a certain day, she said, "Maybe I'd like to come." (she will bring her little one). My sis said the same. I was shocked. So, even though I bowed out this year in person (only a tiny twinge of guilt then it passed) and opted for the local fishing hole instead, looks like everyone wants to come over on that off-day anyway :). Just when I was going to throw in the towel because I figured no one cared about it anyway, they decided they missed that lil gathering of ladies. I suppose there's still hope and have of course welcomed them with open arms for the off-day we have planned soon. I plan on suggesting we all make a passing dish (with the exception of my own mom who will be queen for a day) or we can get take out. Ironic really. But I'm still going to be at the fishing hole on Sunday. :-) This will be the first time I've sat it out, even though we'll have a "do-over" shortly following. One thought comes to mind for Sunday: "I'd rather be fishin'."
Any room in the boat??Fishing on MD sounds like a plan.
Hey Pooh what time do we need to crash the reunion? So far still no plans, but reading thru the lines I will be here and she will be there. I don't' know if she is afraid to drive alone 70 miles with baby , if he won't come with her ( most likely the case as in past she had to come alone for birthdays, Easter , weddings) or what the hold up is. I know it is her first and I'd better there in a flash if he would be nice and not acting as though I"m not there or have very little to say , and not even to me . Now I'm on new meds that have caused bathroom issues do driving for me out of town is not going to happen and the chronic neuro burning has now moved up to include upper legs with lower and feet, sitting in the car unless on ice pack is h---. Not fun to get dx when 1st gs on the way and turning 60. Dh is past hurt is now getting mad , can't believe she has not said HMD in one of her text or emails yet , so I guess it will be like my birthday a call from a DD that has never missed being part of special times with her mother. I might suggest that we just celebrate all holidays on one day out of the year therefore it won't intrude in SIL's life or plans. I'm very hurt . I don't' expect her or him to put me on a pedestal , or does DH we would just like to spend time with them and gs from time to time . We know they are busy , not been married but 2 years and new baby so they need time and space , we absolutely respect that. So DH works at golf course that morning but plans on taking me out to lunch, poor thing he is not my child and I"m not his mother. If our mother's were living we would be right there to make their day. His two boys (my stepsons) just lost their mother about 8 weeks ago so this will be hard for them, I sent their wives cards and a card for them ( thinking of them on this md) . OK i think I'll go move an azalea that i planted that really needs to be in another spot. Have a great day and I'll be glad when it is MONDAY for the first time in a very long time . LOL
Jill1963 just wanted to say growing up I wanted 6 but due to rare cancer I was lucky to have the one DD. A true miracle baby as doctors said no and now way would I be able to do it . Now if I had 6 I would be filling these pages up 24/7 or maybe not , might have had some positives going on LOL
Quote from: luise.volta on May 06, 2012, 10:23:11 AM
And a good one! No one can alter that fact! We gave them Life and a great start. What they did/do with them is about them not us. Yes, we all had expectations...who wouldn't? And if those expectations bring us sadness instead of joy...there are other options. Lets see...ah...ere...
Please someone, help me out here...
OK...what I come up with is that the other "choice" for me would have been not to be a mom. And I can honestly say that it was the greatest experience of my life and offered me the most, even if it cost me the most. Nope, I really wouldn't change that, no matter what.
Sending love...
It's a time to let go of any expectations that we had of them, and raise a few more for ourselves.
I'll pretend the rest of my life is a clean slate, and explore the options put on hold, the options that people said you couldn't do, and just keep my eyes looking forward.
Motherhood was a journey that had joys and sorrows, most of the joys when my son was under 10, but that path is one I won't be wandering down again, one with a different view and destination is the one I'm on now. I went on a hike yesterday with an old friend and in about 5 miles of walking, we only looked back once, and then it was to point out where the trail ended. I'll keep my eyes, over my toes and keep moving forward, even if it's only a few inches at a time.
KG
Beautiful, KG!
Hallmark Holiday! Hate it! but, I'll get something on clearance afterwards! LOL!
Hey not long and this day will be over . Not to fret about for 364 more days Yahooooooooooooooooo
I had a great day helping my church prepare for a move - lots of people there with lots of moms - a buffet and flowers for all the moms!
Got an impersonal automated notification for an online MD card from ES (estranged son) that I haven't bothered to pick up yet....