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Title: Here we go....again.
Post by: Pooh on February 21, 2012, 08:03:49 AM
So my YS is getting deployed.  I knew it was coming and have been preparing for it.  What I wasn't prepared for was a phone call from him this weekend.  One of the big issues with his DD and not seeing her is his inability to get back in court, being in the military.  Long story that I've told before, so I will not bore you again.

The call is because he is being deployed, he had the option of giving me full power of attorney over his affairs.  In researching it with the military's legal department, if he gave me full power of attorney, I can act on his behalf in regards to court and DD.  I can also assume his visitation on his behalf, because of a military law in our state.  So the call was to ask me if I wanted to do that.  Well of course I want to see GD.  I told him that if he granted that to me, I would then seek the opinion of an attorney after getting it to see what my options are.  So here I go again.....  ;D
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Post by: luise.volta on February 21, 2012, 08:13:41 AM
Here we all go, P. We're with you every inch of the way. Sending love...
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Post by: lancaster lady on February 21, 2012, 08:24:59 AM
It will be worth it Pooh for your DS and yourself to see your GD.
good Luck .
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Post by: Pen on February 21, 2012, 08:42:13 AM
Yup, here you again....and you do have us riding shotgun, Pooh. Best wishes!
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Post by: elsieshaye on February 21, 2012, 02:25:20 PM
Good luck, Pooh.  It says a lot that he trusts you to have that kind of power and access in his life.  Sending my best thoughts!
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Post by: Doe on February 21, 2012, 03:12:08 PM
I know it's a lot on your plate but I'm happy for you, Pooh!  Definitely give us play-by-play accounts so we can cheer you on.
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Post by: Nana on February 22, 2012, 03:03:40 AM
Nice going..... Wish you all the luck....go for it...it is worthwhile.

Love
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Post by: FAFE on February 22, 2012, 07:45:09 AM
Hate the fact that he is being deployed (tell him thank you for his service), but glad that he's putting you in the mix and making it so you can see your GC.  You will be a great advocate for your GC.  Keep us updated for sure.
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Post by: pam1 on February 22, 2012, 02:21:50 PM
Pooh, I so hope it works out for you! 
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Post by: nikncon on February 22, 2012, 06:32:18 PM
 :)one of your cheerleaders too!!Good luck!
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Post by: Pooh on February 23, 2012, 11:52:44 AM
Thank you much.  I have to get the paperwork, sign it....mail it back....military notarizes it and gets me a copy....mails it back........

So it could take a few weeks knowing the military.  Once I get it, I'll schedule a consultation here with one of our barracudas.  (And that's not downing a lawyer...I WANT a barracuda! Lol.)
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Post by: artlady on February 25, 2012, 06:37:54 AM
Good luck and I do hope you get that paperwork and barracuda asap so you can see that GD.  I know you will have fun with her and love it . Good luck
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Post by: JaneF on February 25, 2012, 07:26:52 PM
Pooh I wish you the very best possible outcome.  I'll be thinking about you a lot...just as I think about a lot of folks here!  We got your back!   J
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Post by: luise.volta on February 25, 2012, 08:02:12 PM
Pooh - We're pn it like white on rice! Sending love...
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Post by: firelight on February 25, 2012, 09:47:10 PM
Pooh, I'm so sorry your YS is getting deployed.   

But I admire you for stepping up on his behalf for the benefit of the GC.  I think you're fabulous!

and yep, here you go again.....and we will get our turns as well...good thing we have each other to go through life with.  ;-) 
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Post by: Pooh on February 28, 2012, 06:54:53 AM
Thanks again, everyone.  I'm lying low right now...in a foul mood.  I've been all prepared for the deployment, but after all the unrest this last week in Afghanistan (where he is going), I'm not getting a warm, fuzzy feeling.  A dear friend got diagnosed with breast cancer (surgery Thurs.) and SD and I had war this weekend....so I'm reading, but not commenting on much right now because I'm trying to get in a better mood.

Luv ya all
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Post by: lancaster lady on February 28, 2012, 07:57:29 AM
Aww ...hang in there Pooh .
everything always happens at once , not easy living with a teenager .
Also your DS .....lots of stress , take it easy ...Love you ..x
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Post by: luise.volta on February 28, 2012, 08:30:07 AM
P - What a roller coaster life is. And some of the pile-ups at the lowest levels are just too much. I know there is no editing and selecting and so we sometimes get what you are up against, and that's multiple issues...any one of which would flatten us. We are your cyber-clan and we walk with you. Sending love...
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Post by: Pooh on February 28, 2012, 12:24:17 PM
I'm good...just recognize that I'm in a foul mood...Lol
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Post by: Pen on February 28, 2012, 04:25:26 PM
Pooh, we understand. Thnking of you and yours....
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Post by: lancaster lady on March 02, 2012, 01:23:58 PM
Thinking of you Pooh .... :-*
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Post by: luise.volta on March 02, 2012, 01:27:07 PM
Sending love and appreciation...
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Post by: Ruth on March 02, 2012, 06:59:15 PM
Pooh, I am sorry this painful day has arrived for you.  I've understood what you've felt all along, remembering the graduation and all the pride you took in your ds.  Keep your faith strong, and as much as possible learn to live in the moment.  My ds did two enlistments (ten years), both served entirely overseas.  It was very hard for me, as he was so far away that only two trips home were possible per year.  In the midst of that, I was trying unsuccessfully to come to terms with, and make sense of, his rejection and distance toward me.  There were so many times I felt I'd never see him again, but the time came he returned home.  And now my 18 yr old g/s is talking very seriously about enlisting.  I don't have any power to make that decision for him, and even if I did, I wouldn't want to because we have to reach a point of trusting their judgment and giving more support and less advice.  There is good to come of this, and it will involve rewards that you'll gain for the rest of your life.  You are very important to your ds and he has shown you one of the highest compliments I think possible.  Not many moms get those moments.  much love.
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Post by: Pooh on March 06, 2012, 06:36:28 AM
Thanks guys.  Sorry, I've been away from here for a few days.  We got hit with another tornado Friday.  Can you believe it?  After the 5 we had last April, again.  I feel so sorry for all the people that have lost everything.  Their faces show the pain and it's so hard to watch but thankfully, we had no loss of life this time.  Been working long hours.
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Post by: Pen on March 06, 2012, 07:54:48 AM
The news stories are heartbreaking, Pooh. I'm glad you're safe, but my heart goes out to those you are serving right now. Take care.
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Post by: shorewil on March 09, 2012, 03:49:17 PM
Good for you , Pooh ! Thank your YS for his service and thank your grandchild for being brave for all of us !!
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Post by: tryingmybest on March 15, 2012, 11:27:32 AM
Thank you to your son for his service, and God Bless you for being there for your GC!