Reasons to go:
1. They say that they want me to come and want to have a relationship with me and I don't want to hurt their feelings
2. It might help me achieve closure or peace with them.
3. I might feel good about myself if I can be with them without giving up my power or feeling bad about myself.
4. I would like to see my husband's brother and new family.
5. I could do some sight-seeing in New England.
6. I worry about how other extended family will feel about me if I never go.
7. It's expected of me.
Reasons not to go:
1. I dread going.
2. I could get hurt more.
3. I could hurt them more.
4. My husband enjoys time spent with them on his own and I believe they enjoy it that way too. He is not pressuring me to go and in fact has said he has said I should go for me or not at all.
5. I would rather spend money on an airline ticket to see someone I miss and would love to see that I haven't been able to see.
6. I could donate the money that would be used for my airline ticket to one of my grown kids, as I know my inlaws would like to see them.
7. It's expected of me.