I want to share what is happening to me because it is tearing me into pieces! I babysat my GD until she was 3 1/2 years old and then I had to go back to work full-time. The MIL took over the babysitting and my GD became very attached to her- so much so that now she is 5 1/2 years old and cries for her when she is on a rare visit to my house! The MIL is vERY competitive with us and one-ups everything we do with our GD. It is almost like she is the ONLY grandmother now and our GD doesn't even want to come for a vi :(sit! We spoil her when she comes and have lots of fun but she rarely comes over and when she does, cries for the other grandmother. IT hurts me so bad but our DS says she DOES enjoy us, etc. etc. but I cannot even sleep tonight just thinking ab out how I miss babysitting her and what has happened to our once very close relationship. The other grandmother seems to have won her victory. LAst Sunday both sents of GP's were invited to our GD's preschool art show and our gD ignored us and cried for the other set embarrassing our DS and DIL. The MIL finally arrived and our GD ran over, hugged, kissed, and cried for her. My DH and I stood there in awkward and stunned silence that you could cut with a knife. My heart is broken. My connection with my GD seems broken for good. MY DS and DIL are even building a house on the MIL's property this spring so there goes any chance our GD will even want to come visit us.