We also run on the philosophy that we CAN'T read each other's mind. It sounds stupid, but if you put it out there and BELIEVE it, then there's much fewer hurt feelings. So if I think that my Dh should 'just know', I back it up and I tell him! Instead of huffing around the kitchen cleaning up ALONE, I ask him for help, and he usually does, because he can't read my mind and he didn't know I wanted help. It's awesome!
Good luck Invisible - as the brits say, keep you chin up!