There is no sense in going back over what happened, Footloose. Be kind to yourself. It was just a mistake. I don't make any fast moves with my DS anymore, even when he contacts me, I am very slow. If you cannot come to terms with having to accept the absence of DS for a time, for as long as it takes him to let go of his anger enough to begin to open the door to you, you are going to destroy your health, and that will be tragic. You are a kind person, with the best of intentions, but your intense love for your DS is driving you to act out of character. I want you to let go of the phrase 'time out' because it is degrading to you. You aren't a child, and you aren't in punishment.
This is more of a sabbatical for you, to allow time for both you and DS to explore new ways of understanding each other. Have you ever considered that maybe it is for the good of both you and DS, to have this little time apart? That it is intended to produce a good and much more fulfilling relationship than you had before? I am silly, I know, but I do believe things happen for a reason, for some ultimate good.
I have sometimes thought it odd, but you know I have never seen the inside of anywhere my DS has lived, since he lived with me. I mentioned this once to DD, how I understand now why my elderly mother made the hard trip a couple years ago to see my house. MOthers for some reason just need to see where their child lives, its comforting somehow. But I will not go to my DS's house unless he asked me. I know he would consider it crossing a boundary. Let it all ride for a few months, Footloose. Then you can begin sending a note in the mail now and then, and reach out to him again. You'll know when the time is right. Hugs.