http://www.nypost.com/p/news/local/mom_in_law_from_hell_VbUDRmQRkAjSRSdyTxcr9I
It seems that this Mother is waaaaay out there! I can't see any justification for her actions, especially bagging the poor daughter in law to her own father who isn't well. I'm mindful though, that it's half a story. Still the daughter in law seems awfully respectable and hard working for a "gold digger".
My take? A wacko-woman. That's why it made the news. Totally wacko.
When I married my Val, I was dubbed a gold-digger before I met my new family. Two loans were called in by my step children before I "took it all and ran." All of what...the poor guy was borrowing from his kids, for heaven sake. Cause? I was 16 years younger. I wonder why they didn't consider that I might love him? I still do, 21 years later.
Yes she (the Mil) does seem especially vindictive, I don't think I have ever heard of a 9.5 year divorce case!
Luise I assume that your stepchildren don't view you as a gold digger now? It must have been a difficult time. Forgive my curiosity, did you feel a need to essentially prove yourself?
I ask because my mother in law has always shown an undercurrent of similar feeling toward me, she's implied I am in some way trying to "take advantage of my husband". When we first met, he was living at home, he had a 14 inch tv and an antiquated stereo to his name. I had an apartment, fully furnished, with two tvs, a very modern stereo, microwave etc. He was working 4 days a week. I was fully employed and had been at the same job for 6 years. Yet I was the one taking advantage of him?
Talk about convoluted logic! Give me a break!
Let's put it this way, I am tolerated by his son and treated with respect. Lots better than in the beginning. I doubt that I am loved. Thank heaven my self image doesn't depend on that or I'd be in serious trouble. My surviving son and seven "sort of" adult children think I walk on water...so go figure...
I know what you mean about self image. I was very hurt when she asked my husband if he was "ok" with my second pregnancy. Then one day I thought to heck with her, I know I'm a good person and I know that I love my husband, what is more, so does my husband, what she thinks motivates me doesn't matter.
Yup, I can get that. Good for you!
It was pretty clear where my SS's values were...it was a money/status thing. That's where his motivation lies and for me, it's a people/heart thing. My motivation has always been to see who needs any excess money I might have...which is never going to put me in the Winner's Circle.