But I think when you have to be the bigger person all the time for the sake of a family that disrespects you, it can lead to bigger problems. I feel like it then becomes acceptable for everyone to treat you badly since you will be nice about it. And after a while you end up building up a lot of resentment because it seems like everyone's feelings matter more then yours. Even the feeling's of people who behave badly. And if you mention your own feelings in this, it is considered selfish.
I'm not advocating always taking issue with every little thing and sure, it's important to let things go. But when doing the right thing is just rewarded by a slap in the face, it becomes very hard to want to do the right thing everytime. Especially if no one acknowledges how unfair it is..