Definately think you did the right thing and perhaps at some point he will realize that respect is a two way street. It always amazes me when I read something like that, our children seem to hold the respect issue so high, yet do not realize that they need to give it to get it. I know what you mean about the difference between his memories and yours . Someone here once said that if one's perception of an event is different then the reality, they basically just believe that is the way it happened. Selective memory is something I think many of our kids have these days and they have no problem telling you each and every thing you ever did wrong but have amnesia when it comes to their contribution to the situation. That old saying for every action there is a reaction is true and so you lost your temper a few times, Big deal, I am sure you had good reason and were reacting to something.