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Messages - blessedmom

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I hope you have a wonderful visit. Hug on your grands all u can..
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Good for you Pen.
  I have always been amazed at how my children think they need to tell me what I can or cannot do. Its your life!
I am with Pooh on the be careful of what you see. It can hurt even if you know it shouldn't. I would advise also to keep your comments very short and vague if you comment at all on their posts.
My own children seem to try to read something into anything.. I learned the hard way.. good luck
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Luise you said, " I'm serious. I matter...(and so do you.)" This is something I'm trying to convince myself of. Its not easy! Well it isn't for me but I'm trying to keep that thought front and center now days.
I've read a lot here and you are just so great at helping someone understand that it's okay to say. "I matter" It seems so simple but its easy for that to get lost in the years of making sure everyone else mattered first. We forget that we also matter (I had). That we are more than Mothers/Grandmothers. We are people with feelings. We aren't perfect. Never have been never will be.. But we do matter!
I've seen many times people have thanked you for having a site like this.. Add me to that list. Thank you!! One kind word can help someone start to heal.
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momofthreesons, My heart aches for you.. I'm sorry things haven't gotten any better. Hopefully she will calm down and be willing to talk it out with you soon.
As for the FB stuff my own personal opinion about that is, its good you aren't seeing it. I've never understood nor will I ever why someone would get on FB to fuss and put family members down?  Seems very childish IMO. But that's just how I see it.
Is your son's all close to one another? I really do hope things are better soon.
I do wish people would not include children and I know it hurts they are telling your GS something that isn't true.
If I were a wise woman I could offer better advice. But alas I'm not. {{HUGS}}
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Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / Re: Which way to turn
November 18, 2014, 05:58:49 AM
I'm learning to limit the negative people in my life also. It's hard to do when the circus comes with a child you love.
Pooh I admire you being able to take a stand. Enough is enough.
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Thank you Luise,
I did read homepage "open me first" and I agree we all have to find what works for us.  With our oldest DIL it worked for me but there are no two alike. Thank you for pointing that out for me. I meant no disrespect.
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Hello, I'm new. What a wonderful site to have stumbled upon! I've read through several posts/replies before I joined and I'm impressed by the kindness I have seen here! Thank you for allowing me to join. I hope it's ok to jump in?
OP, How sad it is you are going thru this. I know how it feels missing your GC. I agree with others who say it will not be easy to get back to where things are good if at all. I'm sure that isn't what your heart wants to hear.
Many times I've allowed myself to be used for the reason of being close to what mattered. Its a hard pill to swallow and isn't right but I do what I have to. In your shoes I'd say "I'm sorry and just take the blame and maybe she will let you back in the door? You gave her what she wanted. Something to use against you.
((hugs))