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Adult Sons and/or Adult Daughters / My daughters
October 30, 2012, 01:57:16 PM
I have 3 grown daughters and a significant other. My kids and him have had issues, just verbal confrontations nothing physical, but it was volatile. They have all moved out and me and him get along great and have a happy peaceful life. After the last confrontation my kids informed me he was no longer welcome around them. We live an hour away but I work in the town they live so I suggested I drop in on my way home from work for visits. They don't think that is good enough. They want me to drive into town on my days off, spend time with them and leave him at home waiting for me. I feel like this is intentionally hurtful and unnecessary. He would never go anywhere that I wasn't welcomed as well. So I said no and now I'm being accused of choosing him over them and being a mother who doesn't really care about her children only her man and herself. Do you think I'm being wrong? Or do you feel as I do that at some time a parent has to chose themselves?