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Censoring e-mails???

Started by Mama Tani, March 04, 2011, 10:16:04 PM

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Pooh

For some reason I just saw this...dang.  The same thing goes on with my OS and DIL.  I kept sending emails about things, and never heard back.  After a few months of this, I was on the phone and asked why he didn't reply?  He said he didn't check his email or FB account any more, DIL did and had not told him about any of it.

Ok, so if he chooses to let her have all his passwords and manage his email, that is his choice.  I stopped sending things through his email and FB.  I figured he could take it up with her on why she had not told him about things I had asked.   His choice.

I have all my DH's passwords and he has mine.  But just to help if one of us is out of town or away from a computer and needs some information.  But I don't check his regularly and if I do by his request, I tell him what has been sent.  I don't censor them.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

overwhelmed123

MT-
I do hope you come back and tell us how you found out that this is happening.  I am trying to reserve my comment until I understand the full situation...

lancaster lady

I manage to speak to my DS through windows Live Messenger ,which he has on at work all day .no one else can see my messages .
Now that we're all speaking it's not a problem ,but it's nice to know that he's there for a chat .
maybe Pooh you could reach your son this way ?

stilltrying2010

My DH's FOO does not have my email add. only DH's - which we sort of treat as a "family" acct.   There have been a few times they actually send a msg (not a fwd fwd fwd) and expect a response when DH asked me to not respond.  This is his FOO and since I NEVER do anything right when it comes to them I have begun deferring to his wishes (when it comes ot them).   Not saying this is what's going onwith the OP but it does happen.

ll- sorry about your friends passing but what an inspirational msg you wrote!

Rose799

Quote from: AnonymousDIL on March 07, 2011, 12:17:46 PM
Maybe it went to their SPAM folder since it wasn't an address in their contacts????

Thanks Adil, I'd like to believe it went to the SPAM folder.  Thank you, I hadn't thought of that.

Rose

Pooh

Quote from: lancaster lady on March 07, 2011, 02:26:38 PM
I manage to speak to my DS through windows Live Messenger ,which he has on at work all day .no one else can see my messages .
Now that we're all speaking it's not a problem ,but it's nice to know that he's there for a chat .
maybe Pooh you could reach your son this way ?

I wish.  But good idea LL.  No, he works for an electrical place, not behind a desk, so not an option.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

lancaster lady

said goodbye to a friend today .
they played Frank Sinatra ...Softly as I Leave you ...as we left the church ...!!
I think when its my time ,I'm gonna have something lively and funny .
People are sad enough without breaking their hearts listening to that sad sad song ... :'(

LaurieS

Isn't that the hardest thing to do... attending a funeral for someone that you really care for.  I always miss everything that is being said because I'm concentrating on  not crying and nothing more.  The families always tear me up, it's hard to see their raw pain.

I don't know about happy music... I don't want people smiling at my funeral either.. what do you think you would pick?  All I know is I better not be buried in a bra... I told my dh, if I'm wearing a bra for all eternity, then you will never sleep through the night again.

lancaster lady

lol....hah Laurie ......
I had a friend who said if they cut her fringe she would haunt them !!
maybe not a funny song ,but a happy one ....today was torture ,I managed fine until that last song .
I would like folk smiling as they left , not in floods of tears .

luise.volta

My ashes are going out to sea directly after cremation. In my belief system that's not who I am but more the outfit I choose to wear this time around. If my family decides to have a "Celebration of my Life," not a funeral, I have asked to have Kirk play and sing, "Moon River" and "On a Clear Day." The rest of the time they will be roasting me. LOL!

We decided when we moved here not to attend any funerals and in 11 years the only one I have gone to is a guy I never knew, my best friend's husband. This is a large retirement complex with over 300 of us standing in line. It's the normal weekend entertainment.

I pick up other people's emotions...constantly, which isn't a blessing most of the time. I start to weep (and I'm not a crier) when I enter the door and am personally still feeling just fine.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

LaurieS

Quote from: luise.volta on March 08, 2011, 12:45:30 PM
My ashes are going out to sea directly after cremation. In my belief system that's not who I am but more the outfit I choose to wear this time around. If my family decides to have a "Celebration of my Life," not a funeral, I have asked to have Kirk play and sing, "Moon River" and "On a Clear Day." The rest of the time they will be roasting me. LOL!

And if you're cremated.. that will be the ultimate roasting :)

See the song Moon River makes me not sad but more subdued.

L

Well, maybe you could just call him on his cell phone if there is something important you need to let him know if you feel she may be keeping emails from him.  Not really much else you can do.  And I wouldn't mention to him that you are calling him "because" you don't feel he is getting emails you send.  I would just call him on phone instead of email.  Hope that helps.

Mama Tani

Sorry Ladies, it has taken me MUCH TOO LONG to get back on WWU.  I do apologize.  To answer ADIL's question.  My son and I (as well as DIL) communicate with FaceBook due to being able to share pics and all.  I have had difficulty with my DIL for some time.  I feel, I know this is my perspective, that I have really tried to do what I can to get along with her.  I do not expect us to be best friends; but for my GD's sake I was hoping we could be polite with one another.  I decided to share with her my feelings of "walking on eggshells" while visiting.  Somehow, FB came up and "she" had said that an message I had sent to DS never was read by her, because she deleted it and that she sensors his messages.  Please, understand that I know my son loves his wife and I would not write criticizing messages about her to him (understanding that it would place him between us and that would not be my purpose).  I did tell her that I believed it was wrong for her to delete messages I sent and she responded with, "Whatever you think."  She is my heartache these days.  I really wish for a wonderful relationship with her.... but I have given up on that for now.  I will continue to pray and hope

Thank you all for your comments... I believe there is a wealth of wisdom on these pages!   :)

lancaster lady

Welcome back Mamatani .......At least you were able to mention the emails .Its up.to.your DS to halt this censoring if he is aware of it that is. It's her loss missing out on what could be a great relationship,she never knows when she might need you , but we MIL tend to.be.a forgiving bunch !

Pooh

Good to hear from you again MT.  Hang in there.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell