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This is my first time here, and I have thumbed through a cascade of posts, not yet identifying my own problem, which I may do at another time. I want to thank each of you who contributes to this forum, as I feel better knowing that I am not alone in my struggle with my As. I am hopeful of the future, only because I simply cannot choose to see it any other way. I may be very disappointed, eventually, I don't know. What I do know, however, is that we are all parents. We have all done our best, given what we know, to raise our children to be happy, successful and loving human beings. The key words being "given what we know." That is all one can expect of one's self. I have an adult son who is an addict. I blamed myself for an eternity, however, I did my best to teach him to steer clear of drugs and people who used them. It was not my fault. It was no one's fault. He chose to go that path. He has never accepted responsibility... it was always the fault of someone else or some situation. The bottom line, in my mind is that we give birth to our beautiful children, raise them the best we know how, and the decisions they make, the attitudes they develop, the behaviors they mimic are not always a product of how we raised them, but rather a combination of genetics coupled with our rearing. We cannot judge ourselves too harshly. Tomorrow I will give thanks for the good in my life and make a promise to myself to move forward. I wish the same for you all.
This is my first time here, and I have thumbed through a cascade of posts, not yet identifying my own problem, which I may do at another time. I want to thank each of you who contributes to this forum, as I feel better knowing that I am not alone in my struggle with my As. I am hopeful of the future, only because I simply cannot choose to see it any other way. I may be very disappointed, eventually, I don't know. What I do know, however, is that we are all parents. We have all done our best, given what we know, to raise our children to be happy, successful and loving human beings. The key words being "given what we know." That is all one can expect of one's self. I have an adult son who is an addict. I blamed myself for an eternity, however, I did my best to teach him to steer clear of drugs and people who used them. It was not my fault. It was no one's fault. He chose to go that path. He has never accepted responsibility... it was always the fault of someone else or some situation. The bottom line, in my mind is that we give birth to our beautiful children, raise them the best we know how, and the decisions they make, the attitudes they develop, the behaviors they mimic are not always a product of how we raised them, but rather a combination of genetics coupled with our rearing. We cannot judge ourselves too harshly. Tomorrow I will give thanks for the good in my life and make a promise to myself to move forward. I wish the same for you all.