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Really 'AMAZED' that this Topic is such a Common one.!!!
Having struggled over the many long years of 'Trying to be that 'Other Person' when dealing with In-Laws' has been my most worrying situation.
Wondering 'if' this relationship problem happens on 'Both' sides.??
Starting off with loving hugs Etc., then somehow the realtionship starts to slide into Oblivion.
Efforts being made to hold onto those relationships take up our daily thoughts as to HOW to mend each of them in turn.
Until we find these efforts a Total Waste of our Time & Energy then give up entirely.
Birthdays & Christmas are difficult without the Family members to celebrate with.
Can it start off with JEALOUSY.??
Posessiveness is often part of the problem too. Being into our 90's could also influence their opinion's.?
Each Family Member seeing their own point fo view, then their Off-spring become part of this Stand-off.
"Oh to see us--as others see us"--springs to mind oftener than not.
Faults on both sides, without any exchange of assuring Love & affection.
Showing up, when our Beloved Daughter passed away SUDDENLY quite recently, with Son-in-law taking FULL Charge of our Daughter's Funeral without any contact with us her Parents being taken into consideration.
Having to read of this event by messages on the Internet by a rather estranged Gr-daughter obviously influenced by her Father's Opinion of us.
Thankfully I am still Blessed to have my Husband, to whom our Darling Daughter was Really Close to & always kept us up to date with her daily life, where the miles have kept us apart. Being her Husbands Home Territory.
Missing this Daughter's Love & her communication is very noticable each & every day.
We just have to cope with our situation, realising that her Siblings aren't favourable to-wards us either.
Somehow family Members choose to Take Sides without any discussion's on 'how' those situaitons have arisen.
No such thing as a PERFECT Parent or any RELATIONSHIP's either.
Having struggled over the many long years of 'Trying to be that 'Other Person' when dealing with In-Laws' has been my most worrying situation.
Wondering 'if' this relationship problem happens on 'Both' sides.??
Starting off with loving hugs Etc., then somehow the realtionship starts to slide into Oblivion.
Efforts being made to hold onto those relationships take up our daily thoughts as to HOW to mend each of them in turn.
Until we find these efforts a Total Waste of our Time & Energy then give up entirely.
Birthdays & Christmas are difficult without the Family members to celebrate with.
Can it start off with JEALOUSY.??
Posessiveness is often part of the problem too. Being into our 90's could also influence their opinion's.?
Each Family Member seeing their own point fo view, then their Off-spring become part of this Stand-off.
"Oh to see us--as others see us"--springs to mind oftener than not.
Faults on both sides, without any exchange of assuring Love & affection.
Showing up, when our Beloved Daughter passed away SUDDENLY quite recently, with Son-in-law taking FULL Charge of our Daughter's Funeral without any contact with us her Parents being taken into consideration.
Having to read of this event by messages on the Internet by a rather estranged Gr-daughter obviously influenced by her Father's Opinion of us.
Thankfully I am still Blessed to have my Husband, to whom our Darling Daughter was Really Close to & always kept us up to date with her daily life, where the miles have kept us apart. Being her Husbands Home Territory.
Missing this Daughter's Love & her communication is very noticable each & every day.
We just have to cope with our situation, realising that her Siblings aren't favourable to-wards us either.
Somehow family Members choose to Take Sides without any discussion's on 'how' those situaitons have arisen.
No such thing as a PERFECT Parent or any RELATIONSHIP's either.