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You guys know I'm a big fan of my FB.  Yes, I know it can cause drama and such, but I still like the benefits more than the drawbacks in my case.  But I had to tell you guys, I even had an issue today, out of no where.

I posted pics of mine and DH's trip to see my Son graduate from the military back in October.  I posted these back in October when we got back.  There is like 150 pics in that folder and today, my ex SIL, who is still on my page because we have always got along, posts a snippy comment on one of them.  It was a pic of YS and DH walking across an airfield.  It was pic of them walking with their back to me, planes in the distance and their steps are in sync.  I posted a caption that said:  My two favorites boys playing in the sand.

Now, this ex SIL has never left me a comment.  She likes my pics or statuses every once in awhile, and I do the same on hers.  She leaves a comment on that pic that says "I love you but you have another Son.  What about XXXXXX?"  Oh, I was livid!  I deleted the post and sent her a private message that said that I loved her too, but that I didn't air family issues on FB, as she should be aware of.  I told her if she would have asked, I would have told her that I had not seen Jeremy before TG for two years, his choice, but now that he came around on TG I was hoping that would change.

She wrote back something like: I hope so too.  It just made me sad to see that you put that.  I know you love XXXX but I figured you didn't realize how bad it looked to post my 2 favorite boys when you have him to.

I wrote back that I guess if that was the case, I guess I should have written that it was 2 of my favorite 7 men as I also love my Daddy, Dad and 2 brothers as well and that I understood, because I was sad that she had left that kind of comment.

She hasn't responded....

So much for the high road!

Ha....I stumbled across something really cute and easy the other day on a site.  It was a site that you have to log into as a member, so it will not let me link to it, so I'm writing it in my own words and then you can google cake pops and see all kinds of websites with pictures.  It took me awhile to find the actual recipe in the site I was in so I'm just gonna tell you what to do...Lol.

You take any flavor boxed cake mix that you want and a matching flavor of icing that you want.  Cook the cake like normal, let it cool then crumble it into a big bowl.  Add 3/4 of the icing and mix it into a dough.  Pinch off the size you want and roll into balls, putting them on wax paper.  Stick them in the freezer for about 15 minutes, while you melt chocolate (again, your flavor choice).  Take a sucker stick (I bought a bag of 100 at a local craft store), dip the tip in chocolate and insert into the ball.  Now dip the ball in the chocolate and let the excess drip off.  Stick the end of the stick in styrofoam to hold them while they set, or you can put them ball down on wax paper for a flatter top.  Voila!  Cake pops!

We made these reindeer this weekend to play on for my company christmas party in a couple of weeks (with lots of kids coming) and they turned out so cute!

http://www.bakerella.com/category/pops-bites/cake-pops/

So right in the middle of this mess we have going on, actually it was the weekend it all started, was DH and my 2nd anniversary.  We didn't get to celebrate at all, and have plans to do something after the holidays.  He has started running, so I had bought him a Nano to play music on while he ran.  He loved it.  But I wanted to share what he got me, because I couldn't help but laugh and laugh after it sunk in how much effort he put into it.

I've told the story of how the word "Velcro" came to be for us.  Also, my favorite animal is a penguin, and our second date, he took me to an aquarium to see them.  We also joke all the time that we are each other's penguin, a.k.a. soulmates.  So he buys me things with penguins on them quite often.  Ornaments, jewelry, cute little things...

We bought a motorcycle back in July and have enjoyed it so much.  We would take off on Saturdays and just ride all day.  We have been asked a few times to join local biker groups and we have turned them down because we just enjoy going on our own.  So another joke between us has been that we are our own biker gang.

Bless his heart.  He apparently worked for over two months designing a patch to put on the back of our jackets (like biker gangs do).  He had to send the artwork (with a picture of our bike and the penguins he wanted) all the way to Poland to make me this gift and was so excited about it.  With this gift he said, "We are officially a gang of two!"  So here's the best pic I have, which is the artwork that the people in Poland sent him to verify this is what he wanted.  The final product looks even better and is 12 X 12 to fit the back of our jackets, but you will giggle.



As I tell Luise all the time until she groans....have I said how thoughtful and wonderful my DH is?  (Just for you Luise!)

Ok, I haven't played a fun game in awhile, so I'm starting one...Lol.  (Trying to get my sense of humor back on track).  So this is for everyone to list the funny stuff you do because you love your DH or SO.

You know you love your DH when you will go out in a monsoon, during your lunch hour, to buy him a gingerbread house kit because he pouted the night before because you bought you and SD each one.

Got the shock of my life on Thanksgiving.  Me and DH had just sat down with my Mother and Father to eat, when low and behold, OS and DIL pulled up!  My Mother had called and invited them, like she does with everything, but they haven't shown up in almost two years for anything.  We didn't expect them to and wasn't even thinking about it.

They came in and ate, DIL was actually very sociable, joining in the conversations (which is not her norm) and OS was pleasant but reserved.  My DH speculated that he felt like OS was nervous and his take was he felt like OS was probably ashamed of himself and his past behavior.  It went well and everyone talked about all kinds of junk, nothing serious.  We had already been at Mom's for a couple of hours before eating and she knew we had to run after helping clean up to make it to DH's FOO Thanksgiving too.  So we just followed our plans and OS/DIL walked out with us, as we explained we had to go to spend some time with DH's FOO.  They stood talking for a few minutes in the driveway and said they were going to head out too.  OS hugged me and we all left.

Nice surprise.  We shall see what happens next.

Well that isn't quite fair of me, but I just thought better of what I just did.  I don't care that you guys know the story, but it just hit me that was really stupid of me due to not trusting the SF right now. 

Thanks for all the replies and support and I read them all. 

For those that didn't read it, let's just say my SD is now living with us after some really bad homelife situations brought her to us this weekend.

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I thought I would share the funny that just happened to my DH so you can get your laugh for the day.

My YS is spending this week over at his Dad's side of the family.  We took him last Friday and he's coming back this Friday to spend the weekend with us.  YS calls me this morning to ask for DH's phone number.  His phone has died (I'm guessing he forgot his charger) so he was calling from his Nanny and  Papaws house.  He needed an account number or something from his paperwork at our house and wanted to see if DH would read it to him over the phone since he knows DH wasn't at work yet.  I give it to him and a few minutes later, DH texts me asking if I recognize this strange phone number that is on his phone after he gets out of the shower.  So I fill him in and let him know that's my Ex's ILs house and what YS wants.

He calls me in about 10 minutes literally laughing so hard I could barely understand him.  The first words out of his mouth are, "Your Ex MIL now thinks there's something majorly wrong with me!"

When my DH took YS to see his Mother the other day, my MIL called me afterwards and was telling me how "gorgeous" YS was.  She thinks he hung the moon.  I told DH later that his Mother was calling my Son "gorgeous" and should I worry? I was aggravating him.  So he tells YS what his Mother said and YS is laughing going, "DH, have you ever thought your Mom might be a Cougar?"  They were laughing so hard and giving each other grief over it.

So DH calls my Ex ILs house and YS answers.  As these words come out of my DH's mouth, my Ex MIL picks up the other extension simultaneously, "Hey there gorgeous!"  He said she slammed the phone down!

Bet YS had some explaining to do!

May the ghosts and goblins visit you tonight, but only in costume form!  Happy Halloween everyone!

Today is OS's birthday.  I have debated all day yesterday and this morning if I was going to acknowledge it.  I finally decided that I would because I wanted to.  Haven't spoken to him since last December, and I have only sent one text since then, that was ignored.  I I figured that I would send him one and not expect an answer, but at least I knew I had acknowledged it.  I figured I would feel worse if I didn't than if I did.

I sent a text that said, "Happy Birthday!  I hope it's great."

20 minutes later, I get a "Thanks!" from him.

I sent back, "You are welcome."

Surprise...surprise....

Well, so far, it's working.  We invited SD to go to dinner last night with us and she accepted.  Two weeks ago when we saw her again for the first time in over a year, it went well...but it was a little tense and strained.  I am sure she was a nervous wreck and didn't know what to expect.  Were we going to yell at her?  Bring up everything?

I guess just holding conversations with her about school and such put her at ease because last night, she was laughing and joking, telling us things instead of just answering questions and very animated.  When we were leaving, she had parked around the back so DH walked her to her car.  She offered to drive him back around to the front so he wouldn't have to walk.  She even said "Thank You" for dinner.

She was telling us that her Mom had told her she will attend a college close and is not giving her an option any longer of going anywhere else.  She's not thrilled with that and said she is having issues at home getting along with her Mother.  I noticed she had a bruise under her eye, an obvious sign of a healing shiner.  I asked her finally what happened to her face?  She quickly responded "I got hit with a door at school" and moved on.  I kind of prodded just a little by asking, "At school?  Like a classroom door?" and she would just say, "Uh yeah".  It bothered both me and DH and in our conversations on the way home, we both agreed she wasn't telling the truth just by her inability to provide details and that's the only time she became uncomfortable with a conversation. 

Now this will sound bad of me, but my guess is that her M possibly decked her.  Knowing SD's smart mouth and disrespect, I could see where they got into it over the college thing and SD probably was being a pain and M got really mad.  Me and DH have both had to leave a room before with her to calm down at times.  If that's what happened, I'm not agreeing with her M hitting her like that, but I can see SD driving her M to that kind of rage point.

We left it alone but I worked into the conversation in a little while that we had finally got the guest room entirely set up and new mattresses had been delivered Wednesday.  She had chosen a futon for her room 3 years ago, and ended up never liking it.  So I mentioned it and said, "So your futon is still in your old room that is now the office, and we have a guest room with a real bed if you ever want to come crash" and she answered "Oh, Cool" and we moved on.

She mentioned tonight was Senior night at the football game and she was getting recognized for being a 4 year band member and Senior.  DH said, "So is this something you would mind if we came to?"  She said, "Sure, it will be right before the game."

So, all in all it went very well.  We managed to get some little things in, like letting her know she was welcome to come stay if she wanted.  She seemed to have a good time and with us leaving with her sort of invite to the game tonight, and driving her Dad around, I think it will continue.

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Well, well...miracles do happen.  I told the story a long time ago about my SD.  She will be 18 in a couple of months.  Short version for those who don't know it:  She has not spoken to me or DH in over a year now after getting mad at us for giving her house/attitude rules.  She refused to spend visitation with us and her Mother/SD supported her decision.

So last night, my DH text her (he hasn't text or wrote her in about 3 months after receiving no response to texts, calls or emails in over a year) and asked her if she wanted a saxophone that someone was wanting to donate to a child or teenager.  She plays sax in the high school band, but hers is rented.  She wrote back yes.  He said he would bring it to her or meet her somewhere.  She asked where he was and he told her we were getting ready to go to dinner.  She asked where, he told her and she said she would meet him in the parking lot.  We went and when she showed up, she was very civil and excited about the sax.  She stood at my car for about 15 minutes talking about it.  My DH took a chance and asked if she had eaten dinner.  She replied that she had already.  He made conversation with her by asking about school, band, BF, etc. for about another 10 minutes and then it got awkward.  She piped up and said, "I guess you guys are hungry so if you want to go in and eat, I'll go in and sit with you."  (Insert shocked face here).

She did and ended up sitting there the entire hour we were eating.  She never asked us anything, but answered everything we brought up.  We didn't bring up the past year or anything, but talked about college and such.  After the hour, it was getting awkward again and DH asked if we were ready to go.  We walked out and he asked her where she parked.  She indicated the opposite side of the building so I told him to go ahead and walk her to her car and I would wait in the car.  He came back in about 10 minutes.

She has matured a bit, but listening to her, she was still blaming others for anything not right in her life and still had that argumentative nature of "I'm always right".  DH said as she was leaving, she had tears in her eyes and he asked if she wanted to say anything else and she shook her head no.  But all in all, she tried very hard.  She even indicated that we were welcome to come to a football game to watch her perform.  DH and I had a long talk afterwards about it and that he was just going to have to accept that she was that way.  That he didn't have to be a doormat, but that at her age now, she has been formed into the person she is basically going to be until she gains maturity.  That arguing the small stuff now would be fruitless.  So, now we are just waiting to see what happens next.

My DH had a big smile on his face!

A friend of mine posted this on my FB and I couldn't help but giggle.  I have been a blonde several times via my hairdresser and she knows I always say I'm having a blonde moment when I can't remember something.

I had to share because it got me tickled!

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I am so seriously frustrated right now.  At what point did a patient become an afterthought?  What happened to Doctors and Staff that cared about people?  When did they forget about compassion and empathy?  Not to mention, dern it...I'M PAYING THEM!

Arrrrrgggg.  So remember I received the letter that the moles had pre-cancerous cells in them?  So I called 3 weeks ago and the receptionist looked up my file and said this other person had it and put me through to his office.  I got voice mail, left a message and my phone number.  Never got a call back.  Decided to be patient because of going on vacation, got back and no message still.  Had my regular appointment with my MD yesterday and told him what was going on.  He told me to call them back first thing this morning and give them the benefit of the doubt that someone just dropped the ball.  So I did first thing this morning, got put through to the guys voice mail again.  Left another message and he has still not called back yet. 

I am getting beyond frustrated at this point.  I have seen 8 doctors over the last 2 years and I have ONE that cares about his patients.  My MD is the only one that calls back, listens, tries things........  He told me to try again and if they didn't respond this time, he would call and get my results and we would go from there.  I appreciate him but dang it, I'm running in circles!

I'm about over this today!

I haven't written about YS lately, so I am going to catch you all up.  Sitting here watching the President speaking about all the turmoil, isn't helping my mood!

YS has been in training for UAV for awhile now.  He actually graduated his training back at the end of August.  At the beginning of August, I was searching for airline deals to go to his graduation.  He called me one evening and told me that he was graduating in the top 2%, so he had been accepted into the advanced program to fly the larger aircraft.  A great achievement for him and he was very excited.  He wanted to know if I would wait, and fly out for his grad from that program because it would be a bigger deal for him.  So I told him sure and he said that it would be about 6 more months of training.  So he graduates, moves on to the new program and all is well. 

Two weeks into the program, he calls and lets me know that they are in big need of them, so they are accelerating their training (more hours a day), and now they will be finishing in about 3 months.  He's been calling and loves this program and I have been very proud of him.  So, he calls me Sunday and tells me they are graduating the third week of October, he has his orders for his next base (I can't tell yet), he is going to get to fly back with us and stay a couple of weeks before going to his next base (Woot Woot!) and that depending on which company they attach him to, "Heads up Mom.  I may get deployed in Feb-March if they attach me to the company there now".

Tummy is doing Momma-worry flips now

Ok, my question.  I have been looking at flights and they are expensive this time of year apparently.  Anyone know of some good websites for cheap flights?  I have looked at all the normal travel sites, you know....the gnome one and all those, and someone told me about www.cheapoair.com.   Anyone else have any knowledge of good sites?  Thanks!

Finally!  19 months later!  I can not tell you guys how weird of a feeling this is.  Here I am, relieved and grinning from ear to ear because I have a disease!  I have lost my freaking mind!  No actually, I finally feel like I finally HAVEN'T lost my mind!

The verdict is in kiddos.  I went to get my stitches out this morning and my biopsy results were back.  It is Linear Morphea with Deep Morphea.

I'm not a hypocondriac, I'm not loosing my mind, I'm not imagining all these symptoms, I don't have to keep being sent to different doctors for more tests and I can finally take charge, research and learn about my disease!

Hip Hip Hooray!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Forgive me as I am terrible with geography.  I have been watching the riots on TV and I just wanted to make sure none of our WWU friends are too close to it.  I am very sorry if you are and will send good thoughts that you are safe, secure and that this ends soon.