I agree with both of you, that's the kind of stuff that GP's are supposed to do, it's the parent's job to discipline, GP's spoil, but we're not dealing with "normal" people. They won't leave our GD alone with us, God forbid I put a headband or pretty barrette on her hair, her hair has to be a mess because her mommy says so, now I brush her hair and do it in front of them and if they don't like it, then don't come, I'm getting used to it!