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I wanted to say thank you for this site. I too have a DIL that I can't get along with. Unfortunately, we are two totally different people with different personalities. I am more down to earth, believe in working for everything you get, responsible and most of the time, listen to both sides of a story. She is very high maintenance, wants everything her way, clingy and whiny.
I am not going to sit here and say that I have done everything right, but I really tried hard in the beginning to accept her for who she was. But after multiple instances of her being disrespectful (stomping her foot at me, rolling her eyes, leaving her dirty dishes all over my house for me to clean up, etc.) I finally said something to my son about how he was allowing her to treat me so disrespectful and that I was equally upset with him for allowing it. That was the beginning of the wedge between me and my son. When he said something to her, she told her Mother what I said, there was a confrontation between her Mother and I, and it went downhill from there. Now he just goes along with her and avoids me to keep the conflict down.
Now, two years later, I never hear from him. He only answers me in one word answers when I do text him to see if everything is OK. I have tried to not be intrusive, but it is easy to see there is a big gap between us now. We were always close before the DIL and him started dating. I would have loved to have had a DIL that I could have been close with.
I always said my job as a parent was to teach them right from wrong, give them feathers of wisdom and then wings to fly. I just didn't know it was going to feel so awful when they did......
I am not going to sit here and say that I have done everything right, but I really tried hard in the beginning to accept her for who she was. But after multiple instances of her being disrespectful (stomping her foot at me, rolling her eyes, leaving her dirty dishes all over my house for me to clean up, etc.) I finally said something to my son about how he was allowing her to treat me so disrespectful and that I was equally upset with him for allowing it. That was the beginning of the wedge between me and my son. When he said something to her, she told her Mother what I said, there was a confrontation between her Mother and I, and it went downhill from there. Now he just goes along with her and avoids me to keep the conflict down.
Now, two years later, I never hear from him. He only answers me in one word answers when I do text him to see if everything is OK. I have tried to not be intrusive, but it is easy to see there is a big gap between us now. We were always close before the DIL and him started dating. I would have loved to have had a DIL that I could have been close with.
I always said my job as a parent was to teach them right from wrong, give them feathers of wisdom and then wings to fly. I just didn't know it was going to feel so awful when they did......