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It has been quite some time since I wrote on this site.  I can never repay the wonderful advice, sympathy and great friendship I was given when I was at my darkest hours.  I want to share with all of you the absolute joy that has occurred in my life.  I now have a relationship with my DS/DIL not perfect but making great strides every day.  I have the best relationship with my GS that I never thought I would and I have all of you to thank for it.  If I had stayed in my poor me place and did not live for myself I don't think I would have ever had opportunity to meet my GS.  He is the love of my life and I cherish every moment I get to spend with him.  His first birthday is this Sunday and I'm going to the party and I can't wait.  This will be the first family gathering I have been invited to or attended with both sides since 2010.  I'm a little nervous but I am confident in myself and how I have grown that I can handle anything. 

I want to tell anyone new that these ladies are the best.  Luise the creator is a priceless gem and her knowledge is beyond words.  Pen, Keys Girl have always given me such great advice or just their opinions to help me see different sides to all situations.  All I can say is that I know your pain and you have to focus on you which was very hard for me since our life is our children.  I never thought I would have a good relationship with my oldest DS again, but we are working on it and I am content for now. 

Sending love to each one of you and hoping that if your situations don't get resolved as you would like that at least you will find peace and happiness in your lives with the people that want you in their lives.  They are the ones that matter most anyways. 
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Well ladies, tonight March 3, 2012, my FIRST GRANDSON arrived around 7:30pm 7lbs 4oz and 20 inches.  My YS sent me a text this is the happiest, saddest day of my life.  I tried to reach out to my OS and DIL a little over 2 months ago and was basically told via text too bad so sad...he has put our relationship behind him.  Well I could tell the text was written by DIL but I answered the text with a request for his email which he responded immediately so I thought maybe we have open communication again.  Well how wrong was I again....when will I learn.  Anyways, I sent a very nice letter, no accusing only positive, but as you all can guess know I have never heard from him again.  I sent a gift card with my YS for the baby shower and I did receive a thank you card from DIL.  I also sent DIL a birthday card and did receive a thank you text from DIL.  So now you have the update.  Today my grandson came into this world and I am so happy that all is good and that my YS is there to represent our family.  No other members were invited...again pretty sad.  Well, I know not to have any expectations so I am not disappointed that my OS didn't call but I am hurt that this has happened at all.  I don't know if I will ever get to see or know my grandson but I will not worry but I will pray.  Hopefully one day my prayers will be answered.  I want to thank everyone for listening to my story today and I wish all of us to hurt a little less each day.  I could sure use some words of wisdom tonight to heal my pain...I had always thought about the birth of my first grandchild but NOTHING could have prepared me for this HEARTBREAK!  :'(