As for this website, it saved my life and my marriage. This was the first place I ever felt supported in my plight and the first place where I heard that I was not helpless. I really thought that since I had no control over what was happening in my DS's life I was just doomed to stand by and be tortured by the choices he was making. It never occurred to me that he had his own lessons to learn and I was no longer responsible for saving him from making mistakes. It was here that I learned that my work as a parent was done. I now stand on the sidelines and only help when asked (and if I can).
It has been a tough year for all of us. We are dealing not only with the pandemic but also the loneliness caused by isolating ourselves. I quit my job in childcare because it was like working in a petri dish and I have been home with my DH since April. I cannot imagine how lonely people who do not have a significant other are. I know of one separated father who committed suicide when he was denied the possibility of seeing his children. This is a horrible time and it makes it all the more important that we spend some time enjoying ourselves and actively trying to make ourselves happy. When we are happy we make the people around us happy. It grows!
I can't change your font for you. You must have composed in another program and the cut and pasted your first post. It is OK. I don't feel like you were yelling, I promise!! LOL
Keep reading and feel free to post anytime. Luise has some wonderfully calming advice! Ask me how I know!!