March 28, 2024, 03:35:04 PM

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Topics - Whitney

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I'm comforted to have discovered this site this year ~ a place to vent and feel camaraderie with other Moms whose hearts have been broken by their adult children's behavior.
It's been a year of soul searching, but I think what I've learned will make 2014 a much better year ~ and I wish the same for all of you!  :)
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Wow, you Ladies are so awesome to keep offering me your thoughts and advice.....I should probably start a new post about the next chapter:  ENFORCING CHILD SUPPORT ARREARAGES.....I'm not getting over my disappointment too quickly about how I was treated at the wedding....I thought I would deal with some of my anger at my EX by going after him for back child support for my daughter ($8,000).  I have a court order from 2008...but when my daughter was in college, he threatened to cash out her pre-paid college fund in order to pay me.  She called me, hysterical, that she wouldn't have the money to pay for school, so under duress, I cancelled the enforcement in 2009.  Well, last month, she finished her studies so...the timing seems perfect to ask the State of Florida AGAIN to enforce the order.........I submitted the paperwork TODAY, yes, I really did!
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My son is 29 and is getting married in 4 weeks in an elaborate ethnic 2-day ceremony. I have been SO excited about it, but he has made my attendance conditional on getting the restraining order dismissed (it's 11 years old), and also that my "new" husband not attend as - in his words - "if dad sees your husband, there WILL be violence.
Is it just me, or does that sound contradictory???
My EX and I have had no contact in 10 years, and my son says that his dad is no longer angry at me - he blames my new husband for the breakup of the marriage (which isn't true, we didn't even start dating until the divorce was final).
I had already accepted that my hubby would not be with me to celebrate this wedding - but getting the restraining order dismissed so my EX will not suffer consequences if he does become uncivil......my head is swirling with disbelief and disappointment that my son is insisting on this...his dad is manipulative, domineering and demanding.  All I can guess is that my son is still trying to please him by making sure that he is at the wedding - even if is means I am not.
So I dunno if I should just not go, or get the restraining order dismissed and take my chances....