Lilly, I totally agree with your grandmother's advice. That's why it tears me apart, that my husband doesn't agree with it. It took you 3 marriages? Well...maybe there is hope for me after all.
Stilllearning, I will unload my anger, or it will eat me up. I just want to wait another day, because the last thing I want to do is cry . I want to lay down the facts in a cool and calm way, and I'm going to give my husband a choice. Either he sticks up for me, or I'm gone. And sticking up for me entails him contacting our son and telling him we won't tolerate his behavior anymore.
Do you know that famous quote that Robin Williams said?
"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone."
Pooh, I know. I've been living in this no-win situation way too long. I have created my own little world a long time ago; my world of escape. I write novels. But it's just not enough. We'll see how my husband reacts to my talk tomorrow.
Luise, I'm so glad I shared too. I used to think my friends must have some secret problems too, but oddly enough, when I approached them with mine, I usually got to hear -- I don't have that problem... it could be the mentality here, in the country that I live in. Anyway, there were too many awkward situations. So now I just don't want to expose myself like that anymore. I miss America, and people with big hearts,..hearts like in this forum.