My SIL is so jealous that my daughter spends her time with me while he is away. She has two boys age 7 and 9. Guess who helps when she needs something. Or even if he does? Me. But he is upset that his boys are close to me. I just dont know what to do. I told my daughter do what you need to do that its her family and if she can make it work it would be good for the kids as well. So I have backed up away and its killing me. She feels like i abandoned her but that is far from the case. I am just trying to give her space to work out what she needs. I love my SIL but why? I dont get why I am the scapegoat? I worked my whole life to be close to my kids and am close to my son also. Why am I being punished? Why is she hurting and has no body and he is happy? Something is wrong with that issue. All he does is yells and the boys dont even care if he comes home. Its so sad they need a father. I know this sounds crazy and i sit here crying. Heck I can even post pictures or things about grandsons because he is upset that he might not have known it first. Lord i thought if i shared things he could be closer to them....but no my intentions of good is taken as bad. So i no longer post about my grandsons. 10 years..and this is second time he has spun in circles. How much damage is going to be done this time? He pushes her to work.. How he isn't home to help? What if boys got sick? Pandemic she fixes everything at home replaces toilets in the home I have helped with their house so when he comes home he is free to be with them. And I totally back away for them to have their time? And here I am .....shaking my head not understanding.....and hurting for my daughter.....Sorry I am a mess.....thanks for letting me vent in a safe place...as I dont want to hurt anyone and want the best for them.