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Ordinary mum with son married to a jealous controlling Doctor.
Hallo Everyone, this is my first time using a forum so not quite sure how to start? I am a mother of two sons, the eldest is a high achiever with a MA and is a Director of his company. He has always been a loving caring son, we have always been close. This year he married a controlling, jealous Doctor, who is used to having her way. It has not been easy. I usually take easily to people and have several good friends. My husband of 37 years is a great person and very supportive. We both do not know how to handle the situation. She insists they go to her family for Thanksgiving not ours...last year my son said he was coming to us for Christmas..i thought all of Christmas with maybe this year swapping with them coming here for thanksgiving and going to her family for Christmas. i was wrong...she went to her family last year then at Christmas they came Christmas Eve for dinner, then Christmas morning we opened presents which was nice until we were told they were leaving at noon to drive 3 1/2 hours to go to her family...the weather was bitterly cold and i worried about the driving. They were safe thankfully. I spoke to my son and told him that we did not want the stress like last Christmas with them rushing out and his wife eager to leave to go to see her family. I was not going to have Christmas this year which my son said was  choice, then i thought more about it and thought maybe if we have Christmas the week before, our son thought that was a great idea so they are coming to stay for 3 days. Don't get me wrong I appreciate that we will see them. But they made no effort to compromise, I know my son is governed by his wife and cannot commit to anything until he has her word. So Christmas day my husband and I will be alone. Our other son is going to his partners  parents. There is so much more to tell but as being new i do not know where to start.