I googled something about having a difficult DIL and to my delight stumbled upon this website. It's very helpful and encouraging to know that I am not alone in the struggle to have a relationship with my DIL. My son and I had a healthy mutually respectful relationship. After he married, I expected that we would be able to continue our conversations about life and reflect on our responsibilities. No such thing. We aren't able to ask any questions, discuss changes, or have discussions at all. Therefore, when we do get together it's difficult to have a conversation. We've tried and tried to no avail. At this point I've decided to stop trying so I don't appear as a victim/needy person. I have my own sense of dignity. My husband and I have done lots of things to advise others, have been highly respected in our lives and abilities, and are genuinely good people. My DIL has done so many things to make us doubt ourselves. Now I've decided to ignore the one bad influence and remember all the good positive ones. I've done what others have suggested and invested in other areas of my life. I'm hoping that eventually things change, but I'm not holding my breath!