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As most of you know I have reconnected with my OS and DIL just before my first grandson was born at the beginning of this year.  Things are going slow but in a positive direction and I do see GS every few weeks.  Now is the time for Thanksgiving and I found out through my YS that OS is having his first Thanksgiving at his home this year.  My YS has been invited and he informed me that he is going.  Of course I was upset he is my only family, except my BF.  My parents are deceased and I have no siblings.  My take is that he should have told his Brother that I will have dinner with Mom and I will come over for dessert and spend the rest of the evening with you.  OS and DIL have T-dinner between 4-5pm and I have mine between 2-3pm so he can spend some quality time with both of us.  YS doesn't agree with me but hasn't  made any definite arrangements yet.  I know by his actions that he will go to their home. BTW I should mention that all her family will be there of course.  Even if I was invited I don't really want to go...too much drama.  DIL's family are nice to your face and then talk about everyone behind their backs. Not my type of people! 

I'm I wrong for being upset?  I have now invited 2 of my single friends and it will be 4 of us, so I won't be alone but I really would like my YS to be withe me.  Selfish?  Let me know your thoughts!  Thanks!

Pooh!  I completely understand where you coming from on this one.  It seems that respect is a word of the past and I for one feel your anger and this time it's justified.  This is why reality shows are so big everyone loves DRAMA!  What happened to people truly caring about one another...Hang in there girl...we are all here for you!

Luise!  I just registered!  No problems!  Thanks! AL

Artlady - I too will hope that things turn around for you.  Your GC is a precious gift.  I have not seen my GS again yet, but I have been very sick with a stupid cold, but I'm on the mend.  I did send a text to my OS about 5 days after I saw my GS and after 2 days he responded nicely, so again baby steps.  I have NO expectations so again no disappointments...I keep repeating this so I will believe it!  LOL

Nana - I know you have grandchildren and I have read some of your posts and they have been very inspirational to me.  I am trying to change my life and live my example and quit blaming other people and take responsibility for my actions because the only person I can change is ME!  I am making good progress and will continue to do so with all you wonderful ladies on this site I have a great support system.

Thanks again for everything...we will see how things develop as time goes on! 

Thanks Pen and Nikncon!  I am very happy and will cherish every moment I get to spend with my GS.  I will keep you all posted.  Sending hugs!

A ray of hope came my way on  Sunday evening when I received a text from my OS to come and meet my GS!  I was EXTACTIC!  I brought some flowers because I only had a 30 minute window.  I arrived at the hospital and was met by my OS, I gave him a kiss and we moved forward.  The visit was amazing and my GS is beyond words.  My heart is so filled with love that I can't breathe.  I was there for 2 hours, and we all did some talking which I think helped, but I would do anything to be with my GS.  So I am going to take baby steps and see what develops.  The main thing is that my OS told me he didn't want his son to miss knowing his grandmother.  I am so happy and blessed.  I know things could go away again, but I have to be positive and again don't expect anything but take what I am given.

I want to thank everyone of you ladies for your support and kindness.  This is the most emotional thing that I have ever been through and I hope that I can continue to be a part of my GS life but as we all know I have to be very careful.  My OS and DIL was very nice to me and I to them.  Life is just too short for all this craziness and hurtfulness that happens in life.  I hope that everyone will have progress in a positive way because I for one NEVER thought this would happen and I was proved so very wrong. Sending hugs to everyone!

TheMuffin - I just read your response thank you so much!  I thought it was a step in the right direction too!  I will keep making contact from time to time and hopefully things will eventually work out.  I can only pray and hope for the best. I know what you mean about no response.   Back in May I called, texted and left messages NO REPSONSE.  But he did tell his brother, my YS about me calling and leaving messages but he NEVER contacted me.  It's amazing how RUDE our children can be to their parents and have no sense of remorse.  We can only hope that they will not endure the same fate with their children.  But you know what they say about Karma!  Take care sending hugs!

Themuffin:  Thank you so much for your words of encouragement.  I am truly happy for you and I know that if I continue to put my faith in God that all things are possible!  I sent my OS a text message on Christmas stating Merry Christmas, love to you both!  I did not hear anything on Christmas Day but the next morning I received a text "Thank You".  So for now I'm taking baby steps.

Rose799:  I agree with you, and I am hoping that things will eventually be on a more pleasant basis but for now I know I have to wait and see what happens.  As usual they hold all the cards but I am no longer holding my breath I am living my life and having a great time.  My YS is AWESOME!  I had the best Holiday with him and my closest friends.  I have stepped back for a year now because I was beyond devestated and hurt with my OS and DIL cruel treatment I just shutdown and gave myself some time to heal.  With special women like you and all the others on this site I have battled the darkness and I am now in Sunshine and will take it one day at a time to stay there! 

Sending hugs to everyone for a Blessed, Safe and Healthy New Year!

Themuffin - Be thankful your son wants you in his son's life.  MY DS (oldest) is expecting my first grandson in March 2012 and he did not tell me about the baby nor stop by and show me the ultrasound.  My YS gave this information to me...I am so disappointed in my OS he has truly lost his way but again this is his choice and I can't make him do the right thing.  So I will love my little grandson from afar and pray for the best.

I would LOVE it if my OS would come over and spend time with me and not bring my DIL.  I would like it to be different but I would be happy to at least have a relationship with my son and grandson.

Sending hugs!

Welcome Mary!  You will find the most understanding, caring and loving women on this site.  The creator and her son have given all of us a safe place to tell our story and NEVER be judged.  Merry Christmas sending hugs...we all understand since we have all been there! 

Take care and take it one day at a time! 

Yes LL - I was wondering where you were!  LOL  I always have heard that women make men do strange things but our Sons have taken it to a whole new level!   

Pooh and Shelby you two keep me laughing...Definiately will bring the authentic Marinara.  I just made some last week for my friend's son who shipped off to Army Basic in Oklahoma.  I love celebrating life with special people.

I can't thank everyone enough I truly have found an inner peace at this time.  I know that I will still have my days but it's great to know I have friends just a keyboard away!

Luise - You are 1 in a Million and I know that I speak for all of us on this site when I say Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for you and for developing this site.  Without it hundreds of women would be lost.   

Pooh that is fine...even though we move on it's still hurtful when you think of how you were treated.  I completely understand.  I never met my grandparents since I was born after they died.  My mom and dad were 48 when I was born and I am an only child.  No brothers or sisters and my family even though large is all back east.  No one is here in California except me and my sons.  So holiday time has left a big void with this estrangement but I have invited a couple friends this year and my YS will also be with me, so I am thankful for quality people in my life and NOT quantity.

I wish you and yours the best this holiday season and always.  I am thankful that you were able to get to know your GM, that is something I have missed but I know they would have been awesome!

Shelby I agreee with Pooh if the Inlaws were great I would definantly invite them for Thanksgiving! 

Shelby - I would be happy to give you some marinara to accidently spill.....LOL   


Thanks Pooh - I have done my best and I am going to move on.  Remember YOU CAN'T FIX STUPID! 


Luise as usual you are right, Hawaii weddings are the best way to go!

Thanks everyone for your continued support!