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My story is probably the same as others here. I have been in a lot of pain for 2 and 1/2 years. I have two sons. The oldest was independent the day he was born lol. The youngest was our little lovey. He would just put his arms around your neck when you picked him up. So sweet. Today he his 33 years old and has changed in the last 5 years from a very kind and loving person and son, to someone who can't be bothered. I don't understand this change, but I can tell you it started when he met his wife. I know the saying about a son is a son till he takes a wife. But I never expected it to become an estranged relationship. I have an adult nephew who does not treat his parents this way.
I have a brother who is handicapped that lives with me. My ES lived with us for 6 years and was always good to my brother and myself. When he decided to strike out on his own, I was happy for him. We continued to have a bond between us, but understand he was not a mama's boy. Neither of my sons are/were mama's boys. I didn't want that anyway. When we ended up living in different states, we continued to stay close via the phone. Like I said all was well until he met his wife. I had no problem with him falling in love etc. But it was painful because he stopped calling me. I didn't understand it and when I asked him about it he laughed and said he was busy. I wasn't used to this, but tried to accept it.
My mother always said that I was overly sensitive. I guess I am. I try not to be. I have tried to grow a thick skin.
Today this ES is a new father. My new granddaughter was born a little over a week ago. I do not feel welcome to go see her since my ES announced that my handicapped brother is not allowed in my ES house. My brother has Downes Syndrome and has done nothing to warrant this treatment. My brother is a very sweet person and my ES knows this. My ES does not want my brother around his daughter and made this announcement last June. I was so shocked. I told my family members and they all said that they thought it came from my DIL. Of course I can not ask my ES about it because he would just get very angry and yell at me. I would be accused and blamed for it all. I am tired of being the punching bag.
Last July is when I found WWU. I have been coming here off and on for comfort and finally got the courage to tell you my story. There is much more to tell, but I am starting to get nauseous so I better stop. Bottom line............I feel kicked to the curb and not good enough to see my new GC.
I have a brother who is handicapped that lives with me. My ES lived with us for 6 years and was always good to my brother and myself. When he decided to strike out on his own, I was happy for him. We continued to have a bond between us, but understand he was not a mama's boy. Neither of my sons are/were mama's boys. I didn't want that anyway. When we ended up living in different states, we continued to stay close via the phone. Like I said all was well until he met his wife. I had no problem with him falling in love etc. But it was painful because he stopped calling me. I didn't understand it and when I asked him about it he laughed and said he was busy. I wasn't used to this, but tried to accept it.
My mother always said that I was overly sensitive. I guess I am. I try not to be. I have tried to grow a thick skin.
Today this ES is a new father. My new granddaughter was born a little over a week ago. I do not feel welcome to go see her since my ES announced that my handicapped brother is not allowed in my ES house. My brother has Downes Syndrome and has done nothing to warrant this treatment. My brother is a very sweet person and my ES knows this. My ES does not want my brother around his daughter and made this announcement last June. I was so shocked. I told my family members and they all said that they thought it came from my DIL. Of course I can not ask my ES about it because he would just get very angry and yell at me. I would be accused and blamed for it all. I am tired of being the punching bag.
Last July is when I found WWU. I have been coming here off and on for comfort and finally got the courage to tell you my story. There is much more to tell, but I am starting to get nauseous so I better stop. Bottom line............I feel kicked to the curb and not good enough to see my new GC.