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DIL/MIL problems not a new issue

Started by justus, August 28, 2010, 03:39:53 PM

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MagicGram

History is filled with problem MILs.  Eleanor Roosevelt had one.  The mother in Cheaper by the Dozen had one (interesting too: the surviving 11 kids wrote two books about their lives as a family, and never mentioned grandma lived with them, never mentioned that grandma at all, only their mother's mother--they did not like the one who lived with them and bullied their mother--so they just left her out). 

Mary Todd Lincoln was a hellish MIL, to the point that eventually her son sent her to Europe to get her out of his hair.  She still drove the family crazy.  Once she got it into her head that her son was dying and raced back to the US, when she was in Florida she sent them telegraph after telegraph, "Don't die yet, son, wait until I get there".  Her son Robert hadn't a clue what she was talking about, and telegraphed the telegraph operator to find out what was going on with her.  Typical drama queen nonsense.  Mary Todd Lincoln also interfered with her grandchildren horribly and pretty much got herself cut off.  Her DIL would have nothing to do with her, she never saw her grandchildren after their toddler years, and her son only dealt with her because her antics were a public embarassment.

I can go on and on.  History doesn't treat meddling MILs with much sympathy.

luise.volta

Interesting. Got an historical references to horrible DILs (just to even the score?) Or maybe were they a carefully guarded secret? Just curious.  ;)
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