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SIL yelling & cussing at me in my home

Started by mstrish, October 04, 2020, 10:34:33 am

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mstrish

Last Friday night my SIL screamed and cussed at me because of politics. I have been so upset every since. When I calmly told him how rude he was, he stormed out and my daughters took his side! I don't know how to handle it. I feel that the male posturing happens because I don't have a husband to back me up. I want family peace, but as a divorced grandma, I need to set boundaries. But how do I do that without causing more problems?

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Wow, what a horrible situation!  I think I would make my home a "No Politics Zone" and start throwing out anybody who brought up politics. If they won't leave then go to your room and shut the door.  You have a right to your opinion and you have a right to be treated civilly in your own house.  There is no reason for you to have to tolerate that kind of disrespect even if you were defending flogging children. 

Just as a by note if you or your SIL are getting all of your news from only one or two places please expand your views (and ask you SIL and daughters to do the same).  I watch several different news stations, and yes I have to gird myself for viewing some of them, but I watch them so that I can compare things after getting both sides of the story.  This is a tense and divisive time to be alive and it is up to all of us to try to understand the opposite point of view.  
Your mind is a garden your thoughts are the seeds
You can grow flowers or you can grow weeds.
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