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my dil was put on medication for the remainder of her pregnancy. I called the pharmacy to pay in advance but they told me she hadn't filled it, it was 5 ago she should have filled it. She needs this medication so she doesn't go into pre term labor. I tried calling her twice the other day and sent her a message, no reply. She does this to her family. Ignores them until she is ready to talk. So I sent a text that I was trying to help and if she was ignoring me that was fine but I wanted to help. She calls me and starts talking to me like I'm the child. Saying I make everything an issue. I play victim and i crossed the line.This has happened in the past where she twists my words and I told her call me when my son was also listening so words weren't twisted. She hung up on me. Later my son calls and we are all on the phone and she again tells me things and I told her she is hateful. She doesn't have a close relationship with her family but our family is close,  until she came along. Please advise.  Did I cross the line when I was only trying to help. Keep in mind we helped the first month of medication trying to get a pharmacy to fill it. Thats the only reason I called to pay in advance.


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I have also been caught in the "trying to help"trap.  It really stinks when we start out with such good intentions and we end up in so much trouble!!  When it happened to me I just backed off.  I haven't offered any help since.  There have been a couple of times when they have requested help but I don't ever offer it anymore.  The harder thing is to stop offering advice.  I want so much to guide them away from making mistakes but they bristle anytime I offer any words of wisdom.  Oh well.  Hugs!
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