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Started by DoingMyBest, July 06, 2018, 04:55:26 pm

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DoingMyBest

By the time I was 10, my whole entire family was my mom.  No siblings, grandparents, a once a week dad that I wasn't close to, I don't even have step siblings.  On special occasions I see uncle/aunts/cousins, but don't know them.  I grew up planning to have 10 kids, adopting if necessary, as I want a family, I want to experience relationships.   I got married and had two boys, who are now young adults.  My family is us and my mom.   In-laws never got to know us.  I thought at least my family has grown.  While our the two DS's still live with us, I've lost them.  If I can't connect with them now when I live with them... what hope is there to stay connected once they leave.  Future grand kids, if that is in the cards, could be 15 years away, and I may not get to know them.  I feel like the family isn't 'there' anymore.  I thought families grew, mine shrinks.  I'm not at Empty Nest Syndrome yet, but when they leave at least I could use there rooms and foster kids.  This phase, and lets hope its a phase, is hard on me.  I live in a big city, haven't moved in 20 years yet I have no community, no older role model families, no past family experiences to draw on. Every phase is a shock to me.  I feel so alone.

luise.volta

Dear 'Doing My Best': This site has no counselors. We are not professionals in any sense of the word and can't offer advice. We just share similar experiences with each other. The depth of your issues are beyond this Website. I feel in my heart that you need someone you can work with one-o-one. Please seek that kind of help as soon as you possibly can. I am closing this thread and hope that you understand our limitations. This isn't rejection, it is deep caring. Hugs...Luise
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