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Offline cece

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Re: dil and adult son
« Reply #15 on: May 01, 2018, 10:32:51 PM »
Thank You this site has helped me so much.

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« Reply #16 on: May 02, 2018, 06:14:59 PM »
Cece,

I can so relate.  I have seen the tug of war my son is in between my DIL  and I.  I too will not be the one to come between their relationship, especially because if it does not work out, I do not want to be the blame.  The separation has been the best medicine for me.  I hope it will be the same for you.  The hardest part is not really knowing my 6 month old GS but I just have to focus on what makes me happy.  I was raised to never put yourself first but I now find out that is sometimes necessary.  Sending hugs.

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« Reply #17 on: May 02, 2018, 06:31:09 PM »
It's hard but I have to do it even if it is hard to be away from my gs who we love dearly.
At this point if she reaches out I'll go slow and try not to let myself be used so then I won't feel resentment.
Life is so short all of this is just to much in the long run.
I'm going to try and enjoy what's left thanks for all the support.💜💚?

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« Reply #18 on: May 02, 2018, 07:19:34 PM »
I don't want anyone to get me wrong , this is the hardest thing I've had to do we have been the primary care takers of my 6 year old grandson since his birth. It has been a rocky road all most all of those six years.

I just can't take it anymore and it will I hope get easier with time .

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« Reply #19 on: May 02, 2018, 08:27:22 PM »
C, there is no one here who will take you for granted. We have all been on the 'rocky road' and know what it cost us. Hugs...
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« Reply #20 on: May 03, 2018, 06:02:18 PM »
Thank You I'm thankful for this site, trying to ignore emails from dil and separate for now because I recognise a pattern and I must think of myself and the stress.
The emails to say the least are mean but what can I do, nothing.
We are leaving on a trip for a while and I'm looking so forward to seeing old friends.
Thank You again for this forum.
Cece

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« Reply #21 on: May 03, 2018, 06:04:50 PM »
Have a wonderful trip! You deserve it! Hugs...
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« Reply #22 on: May 03, 2018, 06:59:48 PM »
Thank You