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Started by daniel, December 01, 2016, 10:15:50 am

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Did you hit 'Modify'? That's the way you edit and correct. Then hit save.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama


I don't see a modify button.. ?  Hmm.. must be looking in all the wrong places.


It's above the post area to the right. Maybe members don't have that. If so, just tell me what you need done.

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama


Good job, Just Breathe!  It sounds like you are getting the hang of letting go.  There are always setbacks, but if you keep the big picture in mind, and your goal of having a peaceful life, you won't be set back for long.  This is a good place to come when you feel yourself slipping into the abyss or unsteady for one reason or another.


Thanks Bamboo, Positive validation helps.  My daughter has been calling a lot this month.. after many long conversations, (she lives states away), it feels like we are going to be ok. I could cry I'm so happy about this. We chatted again last night, I needed some room after our last talk to get my head and heart straight. I was angry my DD believed the DIL's lies..

Last night we chatted, I told her a few things that have popped into my head. You all know how our subconscious will ruminate on things and then something will pop into your head for no reason.

It was confirmed DD was trying to break us up. Looking back at the last few years and DD remembered some things DIL had said years ago.

So.. you lovely ladies were right on the money. Thank you SO SO MUCH!  I'm still picking myself up from the dark hole I fell into, but with the sun and spring, I'm hoping things will look better.

having my DD back in my life (even if just over the phone) is helping my heart and my sanity.

I am sad and confused and just plain sad this all happened. Like I said before, I do see good in my DIL...I will never trust her again, for sure, but I forgive. For myself.

Missing my son and GC's.. but hopefully time will bring him around more often. There is hope, but he is in the clenches with a controlling, jealous and manipulative wife. I worry for him. I know he goes through depression from time to time too and well, I lost a BIL to suicide and I worry for my son.

DD said DIL is still just as nasty towards him. She let a lot of things off her chest about the visit last december. It was a good thing I made her stay there after all. It took her a few months to come around, but she did. Yay.

She wants me to come out and sail with her. I think I could do this now and have a great time, like the old days with my DD.

Boy, I sure have missed that little stinker. ;)

I still come here often and read.. thank you to all who share and to all of you who are walking this path along side us.

I never thought this would happen to us. It really does set me back. I tried to be the person DIL wanted me to be, she was setting me up and I didn't know what to do!

I am strong and confident again and that's what brought my DD back to me. THANK YOU! 

I will not let anyone walk over me again. She might have the power over my seeing my GC's.. but she failed at splitting up my DD and I.  Thank goodness... and I have a feeling my son may follow soon enough. We shall see. In the meantime I am staying away from them.


I takes courage to come here and open up to the degree that healing can take place. You did the work! No one can do it for you. We can care and share...hope and pray. What a wonderful post! Hugs...
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama


JB, thank you for sharing about your personal growth and the happy outcome with your DD.  It is a real encouragement.


Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb