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Question about DILs and Grandkids

Started by JustPuzzled, December 18, 2013, 07:24:18 PM

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marmark1

Lancaster lady.How often do you see your GD?are you able to take her out.

lancaster lady

Hello Marmark ,
firstly I'd like to say you are in safe hands on this site , you couldn't meet a more kind group of ladies .
my story goes way back and you can read my history on here if you have a spare week .
My GD is now 4 years old and when born i was given the cold shoulder  big time .
I see her about once a month , even though she only lives an hour away .
In my case I think my DIL had to establish ownership of her DD before she would let anyone else in .
i had to learn to back off and wait to be invited to see her .
the thing to do is when you see her make the time special in every way , your GD will remember the one on one time you spend with her .My GD actually asks to see me now .
it's hard I know , but bide your time .
My son eventually started to ask me to visit .Be the fun GM everyone likes , not the grumpy one
no one asks to visit .
It worked for me .
the bad times still happen sure , but thats all about her , not me .
I know my GD loves me and thats all that matters .
good luck ... :)