Should I Keep My Mouth Shut

[dedicatedmom]

I'm with you M4 the OD definitely has been an instigator. I'm not sure why, it's been going on for 6 years since I finally left my ex after he fell down drunk at a holiday family party. I'm with you my New Years' Resolution is to not buy in - at least try my best, I have weak moments and when I do I know where  I will get support

[Pooh]

Welcome M4.  I think that's an excellent New Year's resolution.

If we could factor out the emotions in our bad relationships (easier said than done), it hit me this last couple of weeks, that our good relationships are just as bumpy.  It always goes back, for my situations, on which parties are willing to work on and through the bumps.  Those that chose to, take responsibility for their side of the relationship, seem to be able to have a good relationships.  Those that don't, can wreak havoc on the relationship dynamics.

I'm done expending my time and energy (including the time and energy in my brain) on those that choose to be miserable and purposefully cause issues.  Not only can I not change them, I no longer have the desire to try.  I have a life to live happily.

[Didi.lost]

Amen to that Pooh