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Tough Day......Looking For Some Support

Started by Keys Girl, April 10, 2013, 05:37:41 PM

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Pen

KG, so sorry you're going through this. What a nightmare! Sending strength and patience...
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

Keys Girl

Oh snap........I have a feeling that what I have found to be missing is unfortunately the tip of the iceberg........suddenly my Rolodex only starts at D......the cards and categories for A,B,C and the cards are gone.

I've been pretty busy today, credit bureau alerts good for 6 years in place, bank accounts and credit cards changed, mail going to a new PO Box, meeting tomorrow with someone who referred me to a top notch real estate lawyer who helped me some years ago......and taught a management company that they were not above the law when they tried to kick me out of an apartment and end my lease early.  I hope he is still practicing and I would like to talk to him about a lawsuit.  Let's start with $500,000 for emotional distress and throw in the bubonic plague just for fun.

Saturday morning, appointment with the Police, they asked me to go home, I would have had to wait 8 hours today, they were swamped, but they treated me with courtesy and weren't skeptical about my claims.  Suggested I need to find a new place.

I had a meeting with some other apartment management cos nearby in the spring and I know they have units in the area.  Will contact them tomorrow.  Hope to be able to get the legal beagles to cancel my lease by the end of Aug. and I will move again then.

Tomorrow I'll also go through the apt. to see if I can identify anything else that is gone.

This is nasty stuff, but I plan to hold that stick with the nails in it in my hands on the day that I move out for all the hours that it takes for the movers to get my stuff out of here, unless the police want to keep it..........lucky for the perps that we don't have the second amendment in the great white north, 'cause I am totally anti-guns, but yesterday, just for a minute or two I thought to myself......."Well, maybe once in a while they might come in handy".

Some years ago I did some work for an Globally high profile organization that sold my work under a name that was close to mine, but not exactly mine.  It was a nasty way to be treated, considering that I had done volunteer work for this organization for years and they would profit handsomely from my donation of work and expertise.  When I saw that they had effectively pirated the work and cheated me out of the copyright, I went to the manager, gave her a piece of my mind in a voice that she'll never forget, saw the tear in her eye, severed ties to the organization and never stepped another foot on their property.  They tried over the years to make contact with me but I refused to have anything to do with them.

I went out that day and bought myself a little plaque that says "Life is all about how you handle Plan B".  I'm convinced that the B stands for "Better".  I've never walked away from a nasty set of circumstances and said to myself years later "Oh.....too bad I didn't stay".......I've met some great new friends along the way while working out Plan Bs in the past and eventually, I'll sort this one out two.

In addition to being thieves, these people are bullies.  They want a reaction from me, one of fear and dismay at being locked in to this lease and intimidated by the goons so they can get their jollies.  Not gonna happen.  I've got my "Big Girl Panties on", and the people in the banks, etc. in this hick town have been surprising helpful, one organization even waived some significant fees because all this stuff is already costing me $$$.

I've had lotsa creeps, unfortunately, target me over the years (perceiving me as a single older meek and mild woman) but on the day that I leave, I might just leave behind a huge platter of brownies (baked with lotsa Ex-lax). 

Next year for Mother's Day, I think I'll buy myself some perfume.

Thanks for moral support,

KG
"Today I will be as happy as a seagull with a french fry." Author Unknown

Keys Girl

Well, I'm going to have a hard time wearing my "Big Girl Panties" because whoever has been prowling around my apartment has take a pile of them!!

They've also moved around some stuff inside the unit, I think they've probably come in at least 5-10 times.  I'm going to start keeping a diary with dates and specifics.

The Police had a meeting with me yesterday, they think the worse case scenario is Identify Theft and don't feel there is any reason to be concerned for my safety.  They have discouraged me from buying a security camera, I'm guessing that it would actually put me in danger if I could identify and prove who is doing this, especially if that person is living in my building.  I don't think that person would necessarily spend any time in jail, and from what I've read on line, this happens a lot more than you think.

I've decided to leave the hick town.  I'm not as happy as I could be here and this set of circumstances is a nasty but effective way to get me to re-evaluate my goals and take some action.  I have a plan, so that's 99% of solving any problem for me.

There is a city a few hours away that I think I would be much happier in.  I would not like to have to pay a whole year's rent here to move there right away, we are talking serious $$$, and I can't stop paying the rent without damaging my credit.   Because I can't prove who is coming in, I can't start the ridiculous amount of paperwork needed to appeal to have the lease cancelled.  I may just spend a lot of time away from the apartment and go stay with friends for a few months.

I'm going to look at some new apartments in the new city, in a couple of week after I get the paperwork done.  A bonus is that it has much better medical care and facilities so I'll be saying goodbye to the Dumb Bunnie GP and specialist.

KG



"Today I will be as happy as a seagull with a french fry." Author Unknown

luise.volta

KG - You are making some impressive lemonade here! I'm in awe! Can you rent storage someplace, store what matters...and just leave furniture and clothes? Sending love...
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

Oh geesh...not only a thief, but a perverted thief. 

Are you allowed to have pets?  I'm thinking a big ole' Rottweiler right now just might be the ticket.

So sorry, KG.  Mean people suck.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Keys Girl

Hi Pooh, cats are allowed but no dogs.....yesterday some small damage was done to one of my pieces of furniture, banking statements were stolen, stuff moved around, etc., someone is trying pretty hard to get my attention and I'm guess trying to make me freak out.......I remember hearing about my former MIL was robbed when she was in her 80's and living alone, her purse was taken, her groceries spilled, but she must have been terrified and she had to continue to live in fear.

This too shall pass.

KG




"Today I will be as happy as a seagull with a french fry." Author Unknown

luise.volta

I couldn't do it. I would store everything...and go live with someone that loved me...paying the monthly lease from afar. Cat and mouse is so incredibly sick.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

And my concern is escalation.  Not trying to scare you KG, but coming in multiple times and taking your underthings is a big red flag to me.  They have no fear and those type people tend to escalate.  At the least, go get those window and door alarms at the store that squeal to high heaven when a door or window is opened.  Get extra safety locks or something.

I'm more concerned with your safety at this point.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Keys Girl

Pooh, I'm in such a hick town that I can't find any of those alarms that hang on the door.  I got on the net but they don't deliver to Canada.

Just got off the phone with the Police again.  Now they are saying that I should get a laptop and get a video tape of who is coming in, they have to rule out the possibility that I'm lying to them about things moving around, etc.etc.  They did say that the fact that I was not threatened directly was a good sign.......oh yippee.

I asked them what they would do with video tape evidence and they said they would check it out and talk to them and give them instructions to stay away from me..........oh sure, that sounds like fun, I live in the same building as the people I think are doing this, that's would be even worse that they way things are right now.

I know I'm going to have to go, the question is when and how, I've got some thinking to do, thanks for the feedback and moral support.

KG

"Today I will be as happy as a seagull with a french fry." Author Unknown

Pooh

August 14, 2013, 05:38:20 AM #54 Last Edit: August 14, 2013, 05:39:55 AM by Pooh
Yeah, because if they are taking things, let's stick a big ole' laptop out in plain view that's recording.  Geesh...sometimes these guys have the mentality of a 2 year old. 

Ok, number one, and this is just me personally thinking what I would do.  I would want video evidence of what they were doing, but I would invest in one of those nanny cam type devices that you can buy that are small and can be hidden easily in a plant, bookshelf, etc.  When I had my evidence, I would make a copy (not give them the original) and I would request to press charges for breaking and entering and theft.  Forget the talking to.  A maintenance person(s) might have the right to come in and inspect, but once they start rifling through things and taking stuff, it's breaking and entering/theft.  At the same time, I would request an order of protection again the person(s), so if they came near me, immediate arrest, again...more than a talking to.

Now I'm saying all of this because I know how it works here, but I can't say anything about Canadian laws and how they work.  At the very least, I would make the tape and take it to an attorney for advice and let them deal with it on your behalf.

Yes, the ultimate would be to get the heck out of Dodge, but if you absolutely can't right now and can't get out of the lease, then this would probably be the lawful way to break the lease, to have proof.

I found these on the home depot Canadian site? http://www.homedepot.ca/product/window-or-door-alarm-2-pack/980613
Sorry, I don't know how things work in Canada, but maybe you can get a consult with an attorney to see what your options are?

I'm just mad for you at this point.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Pooh

Just noticed this is the actual base kit you have to have to get started and then you can add as many sensors as you need.  Looks like they have several other options.

http://www.homedepot.ca/product/wireless-alarm-system-control-centre-and-door-window-sensor-kit/980614
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Keys Girl

Thanks, Pooh, I've identified a couple of security systems and am working towards getting one set up in the next few days.

Got some good advice to day from a friend of a friend whose sister was unfortunately stalked by someone for some time.  She gave me some concrete tips for things that I can do to protect myself, and I'm getting on with that.

The Police have not give me a case # and the Constable did not give me a badge number so they are unwilling to get the paperwork going until I have some concrete proof that someone is entering or it's just that this hick town is so small that they might know or be related to the bad dogs or it's just the usual "She's a hysterical woman who can't find her things"......the drawback is that not much will be done if the Police get involved.  They will give the person "a talking to"........my translation is that on a Saturday night when this person is liquored up, he'll be even more angry that the Boys in Blue came to see him at my request, so I'm actually not keen to get them involved.  The law says the landlord has to give you 24 hours notice before entering your unit unless it's an emergency and if it's proven that they have been trespassing, they might get a fine.  The lease will not be broken.  Canadian laws IMHO amount to a mild finger wagging.

I'm coming across some interesting tips.  One of the things that has gone missing in the last few days is the key to my safety deposit box.  I may have hid it or locked it into a suitcase, or it might have been taken, but thankfully I took the advice of the person in the bank last week who told me to separate the 2 keys.  I was able to use the one that I had put somewhere else to get into my box, and today was told that if you are going through a stressful period and are "losing" things because you are stressed, put the keys on a chain that you wear around your neck every day with a charm or something.  Let the charm hang down in the front and let the keys hang down in the back under the back of your t-shirt.  Works like a charm.....pun intended.

I have yet to use the "puke" bucket technique, where you fill a bucket with every file piece of rotting something or another and hang it above your door, so that it tips over on someone who comes in.  I'm not really good at hanging buckets, etc. and the clean up would be pretty nasty, but I'm hearing about all kinds of things like this.

KG

"Today I will be as happy as a seagull with a french fry." Author Unknown

Pooh

Well hang in there.  Keep doing things to protect your safety.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

luise.volta

It feels like some kind of sadistic game to me. As posted earlier, I would opt for safety and disappear...not knowing what this twisted person's limits are.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Lavender

My goodness, I just read back about what has been happening to you and it sounds just awful.  Something that struck me and it is just my opinion, but, I would be wary of the moving co. that you used to move initially also.  Especially if they are tied in with the apts. where you are.  Also, I wonder if you contacted a shelter, or someone online, if they could give you the details of someone who specialises in stalking situations.  There was a program on the TV in my country about it a while ago and there are groups and drs etc who specialise in research, advocacy etc.  I wish this wasn't happening to you and I send you all of my best thoughts and wishes. xo