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Question about DIL changing her name..

Started by isitme?, May 06, 2010, 06:31:43 AM

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cremebrulee

Hi There, I'm so happy things turned out for you well...as I was reading your post, in the beginning, when you said you called her, I was going...Oh Noahhh, this woman is going to really yell at her...whew...I'm so relieved...isn't it funny how when sometimes we expect the worst, good happens? 

I'm so happy, your husband is working with you on this...he sounds very mature and aware...I will admit, in the beginning when I first met you, there were huge doubts, due to your MIL...not you, of course...however, you never know...and your wise in thinking things through

As far as calling her...I believe hubby will understand...you were curious and did what humans do...LOL...I'm glad you called, and I'm sure hubby will understand...just b/c your married, doesn't mean you can't react on your own intuitions now and then right?


big big hugs

Creme

Hope

isitme,
Congratulations on the marriage and on the successful phone call.  I wish you all the best in dealing with your ils.  I like the idea of using the "is that so" responses (all three of them) and not getting swept into arguing.
Hugs, Hope

Postscript

Isitme I thought of another response for your collection: I'll give that the consideration it deserves

luise.volta

I like "I hear you." (Doesn't necessarily mean I agree but conveys respect.

Sending love...
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