Goodbye Dear Son: draft letter ready to send.....

[firelight]

welcome, mumof2sons!  You're in good company here.  Keep posting. 

[Elise]

From LL: "In my experience.  I've discovered my AC dont want to know if I'm sad ,happy,in pain , depressed , tired , sick , whatever . If they ever ask how I am , as long as I say ' fine '   they are ok . My problems are not their problems , but theirs are most definitely mine !  Hhhmmmmm. .... !"

I've realized this is true as well for me. Took me a while, though now my concentration is on family of the spirit and I am finding that while I am interested in ds and dil, I am mostly not being drawn into helping them, materially or physically, as in the past. I listen to their challenges when they open up to me about pregnancy currently or job related stresses and offer kind of the same ear I would to a relative stranger. While it is sort of an empty feeling for me, strangely it is freeing as well and in time I hope to move beyond the 'empty' of that sentence.

[Pen]

LL, true for me too. My AC never ask how I'm doing or what I've been up to. If I try to tell them anyway I get *chirp* chirp* chirp* (crickets.) They seem to be completely uninterested. However, I've heard through third parties that DS has bragged about me to his profs, and I saw once where he tweeted about something I'd done (a good thing, lol.) We can't assume they aren't paying attention; sometimes they surprise us. But mostly it's all about them.

What's amusing is that it's the same w/my DF/SM. They aren't interested in me either, but talk about themselves or SM's AC/GC constantly. Hmmm...I guess that means I'm not very interesting to anyone, lol. Not going to let that stop me from pursuing my goals & dreams, boring as they may be!

[lancaster lady]

A girls gotta do what a  girls gotta do . You go girl !   To heck with them all ....

[mywebb]

i did the letter thing too, i didnt make one shred od of differance i think it can give them pleasure knowing you hurt enough to write one ..just my opinion