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Re: Grandchildren dont eat candy at ALL.
« Reply #15 on: April 25, 2010, 01:08:10 AM »
Thanbk you very much for your responses. I liked all of them.  All of them enlighten me in one way or another.  I do respect mi dil rules and that is why I feel terrible sometimes because even though I agree that they dont need sweets, I just think that once in a while would be great.  I do buy a lot of the permitted food (like someone said goldfish cookies), wheat thins, and  Nilla.  I have green ligjt on these.   I agree with many about the fact that eventually they will get to decide....this cant go on forever.   I did not know how to answer individually to each post because I am a newie. 

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« Reply #16 on: April 25, 2010, 07:47:46 AM »
You are doing great. If you want to respond to one person...do what you just did and just add a name.  Or several like this:

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« Reply #17 on: April 27, 2010, 01:34:48 AM »
Thanks Luise for your information
Thanks for all the others who responded

thanks to all of you
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« Reply #18 on: April 27, 2010, 06:10:13 AM »
Hello, I am new and this is off the subject but I am trying to send a "New Post" and it won't send because I don't know what to put in the "To" Box.  can anyone help?

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« Reply #19 on: April 27, 2010, 06:24:36 AM »
Kathleen - Go to the home page...pick a category...like maybe Grab Bag at the bottom...hit New Topic and the window that comes up for you to type in only asks for a Subject...there is no "To" box.
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« Reply #20 on: May 12, 2010, 06:54:23 PM »


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Thanks, Happy.  That was all very informative information.  I guess I have a good chance of being cancer free b/c when I was growing up we ate all veggies/fruit that my dad grew (Mom froze and canned for winter).  They rarely bought canned goods, never had store bought salad dressings, pickles,  jellies/jams, applesauce......all homemade.  And we only ate out five times in my whole life growing up.  My Dad did develop colon cancer, but he was 81 years old.  Me and my siblings are pretty healthy and when you have your health, you have everything.  Great post, Happy.
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Hey thanks Hope.  I tend to go on and on and well, you know! lol.   I am seriously considering a veggie garden of my own.  I tried  a few years back and the bunnies were very well fed!! 
    I am glad you were able to grow up with a proper sense of nutrition.  So many problems we are seeing with kids attention, learning, diseases and to think perhaps it is what we feed them.  Look at the schools choice of nutrition as well.  Diets need to be addressed.  We need to stop talking about children becoming ill and obese and turn the words into action.  Ooops, there I go again!

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« Reply #21 on: May 12, 2010, 07:18:46 PM »
By all means make a veg garden if you can. My kids became veg eaters after helping in the garden and tasting all the fresh, raw produce. DH just made a raised bed garden (we now live in a rather inhospitable gardening area) so we can at least have a few things growing. Luckily there are a lot of people around who aren't dealing with our particular gardening issues so we can buy locally grown, pesticide-free stuff every week to fill in.

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Re: Grandchildren dont eat candy at ALL.
« Reply #22 on: May 12, 2010, 07:29:18 PM »
By all means make a veg garden if you can. My kids became veg eaters after helping in the garden and tasting all the fresh, raw produce. DH just made a raised bed garden (we now live in a rather inhospitable gardening area) so we can at least have a few things growing. Luckily there are a lot of people around who aren't dealing with our particular gardening issues so we can buy locally grown, pesticide-free stuff every week to fill in.

Sorry, all you snowbound WWU-ers...Spring is coming to you, too, eventually :) Hang in there!

We do raised beds and they work quite well.  Our soil is very clay-ey.  So...with the raised beds we can keep some of that, add in compost and topsoil and barn dirt to get a good mix that will grow most things.  It's easy to do that in raised beds...to a whole plowed garden?  I don't think I could mix the soil like that over such a large area.

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« Reply #23 on: May 13, 2010, 03:07:15 AM »
I loved my grandmother, but she did constantly feed me candy behind my mother's back.  As a result, I developed a lot of problems with my teeth that still are with me today.  Plus this set up conflict; I wanted to keep eating the candy, so I never told my parents.  I remember my father wondering out loud how I could have so many cavities as I was only allowed candy on Sunday (but then, as much as I wanted.).  I wish we could treat chocolate as wine, as Europeans treat wine; have some very good chocolate occasionally at the end of a meal, without feeling "rationed."  This might really help kids to develop the right attitude toward candy.  Also as parents/GP's we should support all the efforts to get junk food of all kinds out of schools.  Sugar is in almost every single processed food item. 

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« Reply #24 on: May 13, 2010, 06:27:03 AM »
I'm really laidback with DD, I'm with the "everything in moderation" crowd.  I am however very strict about pop.  She can drink juice, milk and water, and if she's not feeling well- some ginger ale of course.  And that's how I was raised.  DH, however, had every bite of food he ate scrutinized and has had a life long weight issue.  So, I don't think anything can be gained from hyper-vigilance.  He also grew up in a house where the "clean plate club" thing went on, which I totally disagree with.  I think it's ridiculous to insist people eat when they're not hungry. 

Anyway, there is this mom who had a kid in DD's dance class who is OVER THE TOP on everything like that.  She will only let her kids watch one hour of TV a week, and it has to be PBS, they have nothing but fruit, vegetables and lean protein constantly, and then she wonders why her kids act out-- I personally think it's their only act of freedom.   I've grown up with kids like that and they are no fun to be around as adults.  They seem to either over react and grab everything in sight, or become even more rigid themselves. 

Just my two cents.

***A funny side note.  The same mom was talking about how offended she was because she was beyond her breaking point, due to her daugher being so irreverent.  So, she had a behavioral specialist observe her daughter for a couple of days and not surprisingly- the spec. told her "Um, I think you need to lower your standards a bit, I didn't see anything that needed to be taken note of, she's simply being a normal child".   She was at the dance studio just throwing her hands in the air with this "can you believe it?" exasperated sigh.

If I were her, I'd be afraid of this child growing up and picking my nursing home.....

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« Reply #25 on: May 18, 2010, 01:08:35 PM »
This is a tough one.  I  think that as grandparents, we have to adhere to standards and rules set by their parents.  I don't have to agree with their rules but I have to respect their decisions.

Here is where I find this topic tough.  I am positive that eating healthy is good for you. And I need to do way better myself at eating more fruits, veggies and avoiding fast food more often.  But I grew up in a house where sweets were allowed.  There were rules that said we had to have lunch or dinner first before getting a sweet.  We were allowed an afternoon snack as long as it didn't interfere with dinner later.  Because of the access I had to sweets, I ate them when I wanted and left them alone when I didn't feel like one.

On the other hand, I had a friend who's family didn't allow them sweets.  When she would come to the house and see boxes of Little Debbies, cookies, candy bars, etc. in our pantry, she would literally drool.  Because her Mother told my Mother she wasn't allowed, my Mother didn't give her any and out of consideration, I wouldn't eat any either when she was there.  As soon as we moved out at 18, she ate every sweet in sight.  She put on a bunch of weight and today, still struggles with it.  We have been friends for 31 years and she will tell you that she thoroughly believes that being deprived of sweets growing up, made her overindulge as an adult.  I am still able to eat them in moderation.

So that is why I am torn.  From personal experience with her, I see the struggle she has as an adult with it.  And I know I had sweets in moderation and didn't turn out obese.  So I did the moderation with my own children and they are healthy, lean adults now.  Also I had a grandfather that smoked, drank, chewed tobacco, worked in the sun with no sunscreen every day of his life, ate all his food fried in lard and lived to be 94.  But I had a friend who didn't do any of that, was a vegetarian, exercised, didn't drink caffeine and wouldn't touch anything with sugar in it.  He passed away of a heart attack at 47.   

Not saying I am right, just my personal experience and why I am torn.
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