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DIL jealous of MIL relationship with SIL

Started by Mamiof2, February 08, 2012, 08:50:51 AM

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pam1

Mami, good for you :) 

My SILs only speak to me and DH when they want something from me at this point.  Oh well, I figure it's their loss.  I wish the relationships were different but more importantly, I wish it for DH.  He's lost a lot of respect for a few of his family members and I don't know that it will ever come back. 
People throw rocks at things that shine - Taylor Swift

Pooh

Did you ever discuss with MIL about her leaving you alone and going to the zoo?  I'm curious to know because I want to know what her answer was if you did.  I can't imagine even coming up with a good answer to that.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Pen

Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

Mamiof2

Sorry I haven't been on for a while.
To Pen and Pooh, i didn't mention it to her but as soon as she got back to my house she apologized to me without me even saying anything. Her conscience was killing her i guess.

Pooh

That's a good sign, that she has a conscience....many don't!

I have learned over the years, that once I accept an apology, it is up to me to let it go and move on.  I know, easier said that done.  It doesn't mean I forget or am not more cautious with that person in the future (meaning in your scenario, I wouldn't expect her help again and get someone else), but if I harbor those ill feelings then I am hurting only myself. 

I was world's worse to accept an apology on the outside, but not on the inside, then bring it up next time something happened.  I'm not saying you did anything wrong for feeling hurt over it at all.  That was wrong of her, just that if she came back and apologized afterwards, without you bringing it up, that says that she does recognize right from wrong and that's a good thing.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell