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Why is it so important to throw MILS out??

Started by 2chickiebaby, March 29, 2010, 03:25:10 PM

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luise.volta

Yup...we're all a work in progress because life is. I am way out on the other end of the limb of life...watching my 98 year-old DH leave me one brain cell at a time...and I hope I can ace this one.

Still, like the to-be-bride, I have no prior experience and have no idea, really how to do it. In retrospect, I expect...
that I will look back and see where I could have done better if I'd only know what I was doing. Of course I will.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Scoop

Luise - my Mom always says:

"We did the best we could, with what we knew at the time.  When we knew better, we did better."

I think that's a good way of looking at things.

luise.volta


She's a Wise Woman, Scoop. As we learn and grow our resources change and so do we. I don't think it ever stops unless we get stuck someplace. I also think it's our job to get unstuck when that happens. I have hit the hypothetical concrete, face-first, so many times. The trick is to not lie there too long and to get up, dust yourself and get back on the bike of life.

Another very wise saying..(I don't recall the source,) is that, "It isn't what happens to us be how we respond to it that defines us." That's probably not quite right but it's close.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama