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Trying to love DIL even though she hates me

Started by amflautist, December 06, 2011, 02:06:53 am

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We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell


Quote from: Pooh on December 06, 2011, 11:54:14 am
I'll go with Saint...   ;D

Pooh is, of course and as always, right.  Both Am and Lancaster are saints.  Love to all 3 of you.


I think we can love without accepting abuse. We can love in our hearts and mean it sincerely and still maintain self-respect. When we hate, it only hurts us. Carrying that around make us toxic on some level.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

lancaster lady

AAAAWWW guys !    :-[

I know our DS love these girls , but they don't get to see what we do , they see the mental image
of  how they would like them to be , of course that will be the love potions that our DIL fed them !


Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama


AM, I'm with you. And you're right, it is quite a challenge. Just ask my oft-bitten tongue :)

Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb


I know it may not seem like it here on WWU since I vent so much about my MIL.  But I do care about her and DHs FOO.  It's very hard for me to be around them b/c I do care so much.  All I can think is that one person is breaking apart a family and if they only got her help, it's like watching someone get sicker and sicker with bystanders just walking around her or over her.

I think she'll probably always be in my thoughts and in my caring basket, she's my DHs mother.
People throw rocks at things that shine - Taylor Swift


Quote from: lancaster lady on December 06, 2011, 11:00:15 am

I am really trying , all I need is some kindness shown toward me to convince me to try again .

I'm with you on this statement LL, I don't expect much, and certainly don't want to replace DIL's mother, just want her to show some consideration.  It's pretty try to show any affection for someone who dislikes you, especially a family member.


There is no Saint here except LL.  She has lived with her DS and DIL in her house for many months!!!  I simply can't imagine what that would be like. 

LL is our true angel and Saint.

lancaster lady

Well you know if your DS came to you with nowhere to live , what else can you do ?
They are not here now , and to begin with I missed my GD like you wouldn't believe , but as time goes on
its get easier .
They moved 5 weeks ago and I have seen my GD twice since then , so on the scale of things I suppose I'm lucky .
All I want is to be included occasionally in their plans ,and considered for visits .
Not a lot in my book , but maybe in other peoples ...... :(

Thank you AM and ladies for your love and support through all my trials , couldn't have done it without you !


LL- I never supported it as you know...but I supported you!  :D
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama