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How to move forward?

Started by renny97, February 06, 2010, 11:39:53 am

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peggyrice@triad.rr.com

Luise,  You hold your head up - you seem like such a special person!  I am so sorry about your finances - I hope you can adjust and be happy.   Know in your heart that  ;)you have done the best you can.  Even when we are VERY careful, the cons can creep in - try not to blame yourself.  In the end, doing the very best we can is all anyone could ever ask of us.  Bad stuff just happens I guess.....

luise.volta

Well, it was ten years ago and when even the most sophisticated investors got slammed, we didn't feel too bad about our poor judgment. (We did feel bad about our poor budget, though!)
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

cremebrulee

Gosh, all you girls have given me so much insight, hope and perspectives on things....some days are hard as anything to get though, and like someone mentioned, was it you pen, who said, yesterday seemed like a bad dream....we take one step forward, and two back....however, the days that go forward for us, are positive milestones, which I need to continually remind myself about...I just don't know where I'd be without all of you, and am so grateful for your courage, and the continual wanton to change and progress....thank you!!!!!

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Creme

Pen

I'm grateful for all of you, too. Don't know what I'd do without you right now!
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

cremebrulee

Quote from: Carolina Gal on February 08, 2010, 03:48:01 pm
Sometimes, you just have to refuse to give another person the power to control your emotions.  Focus on the things and people that add to your life in a positive way.  We can not ignore the problem, however we can "place it in a box" and deal with it on the days we feel it will be easier to deal with.  Because our children are rooted in our hearts, the hurt will "well up" from time to time.   I pray a lot and try to give the problems I can not solve to God.  I look at them from time to time, however try not to let them become the focus of my life.  I - we all -  :) deserve better circumstances!


Whew, CG, that was beautiful...thank you for another way of coping...and healing....

cocobars

Creme, I agree and am happy Carolina is here!  That was a wonderful way of looking at our problems.  Thanks Carolina!

One of the nicest things about this site are the women.  The new name fits how I've been feeling about alot of the advice here and it's nice to be here!

thesecondwife

My own M is having difficulties with her DIL (my SIL). And I have had it directed at me too from my SIL. What I tell my M is that you can't control what other people do, but you can control how you react. There has been another difficulty with my SIL lately and my M and I agree to just let my DB and SIL do what they will do. My M and D are good people, reasonable, never meddle, and don't offer unsolicited advice. I have no idea what SIL has against them or sometimes me! Sometimes she is nice, sometimes she is standoffish. I have no idea why, we just roll with it. LOL

luise.volta

Yup...I'm a great advocate of, "What you think of me is none of my business."
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

renny97

 :) Oh, Luise, I love that!  :)