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3 way rift, long back story

Started by bdwell1904, October 15, 2011, 10:05:32 am

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Ruth

Quote from: Pen on October 18, 2011, 08:34:47 am
and I'd tell them I will no longer accept snarky, critical comments about me, DDD, my home, my friends, my career, my community, my car, my taste in clothes or home furnishings, my interests, my looks or my intelligence. Whoa, look out! WWIII coming!


My dear Pen!  Has it come to this?   I mean, its one thing to berate a person's career, intelligence, offspring, even the occasional CAR, but to touch a woman's taste in clothing.... now that is indeed anathema!    I say off with her head! ;D

lancaster lady

I agree Pen ...time to make a stand !

Nana



Dear Pen

I also agree with Pam and LL:  Speak out...what do you have to lose.  Fear those who have nothing else to lose.  And it is true when you hear a quiet person speak out....it does draw your attention.    Beware of calm waters.     Imagine you speaking and also telling your son if he is ashame of you...I can just imagine his eyes wide open.   

I dont think Pen....that taking all this...is doing you any good.  They belittle you because they feel powerful over you. 

You are a great valuable Pen....show them.   

Love you Pen
Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove:
Shakespeare

Rose799

Quote from: Pen on October 18, 2011, 08:34:47 am
If I could talk I'd ask DIL why she hates us; I'd ask DS if he is ashamed of us; I'd tell them DH & I deserved the same respect and consideration that they give the ILs; I'd tell DS that we love him just as much as the ILs love DIL; I'd ask DS if he thinks he has changed to accomodate DIL/her FOO; and I'd tell them I will no longer accept snarky, critical comments about me, DDD, my home, my friends, my career, my community, my car, my taste in clothes or home furnishings, my interests, my looks or my intelligence. Whoa, look out! WWIII coming!


Don't let anybody tell you otherwise!  Anytime you feel ready, let us know & we'll come & guard the door for ya'!  : )