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Help me understand my MIL please!

Started by Laila9, February 11, 2010, 09:58:39 AM

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cocobars

Thanks isitme!  And because you are willing, we have women like you on this MIL site!  Your "best" is always enough.  It took me a long time to realize that I was allowed to make mistakes and not be someone else's "blame" for theirs. 

Take care of you!

luise.volta

Me. too, C/C. When I fist heard, "What you say and think about me is none of my business," I just didn't get it.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

tillykilly

dear laila i am a mil and would love and welcome your cards.....whatever the problem with your mil and her son i suggest you ask him..you should be made aware of any angst there might be between them. you sound kind and i would continue to send cards but solely from yourself and leave your partner to his own devices .......you must do what you feel to be right for you..and kindly tell your mil precisely that...you may just be the one who can help them both to behave toward one another with the same loving heart you show...dont give up on her yet....not until you know for sure any other course of action is appropriate... go the extra mile for your sake and hers, good luck x

cocobars

I know tilly.  Laila's situation is sad for us all!  Did you get to read everything?  I'm happy you are posting responses! 

Atta-girl! :D

Pen

DH is much better than I at doing things because we feel like it rather than withholding things out of resentment or hurt. We might feel a little used sometimes, or might appear to be total saps, but invoking the golden rule is never wrong :) Tilly's right - don't give up...but try at the same time to detach yourself emotionally from the situation so you're not so hurt if she chooses to continue her hurtful behavior.
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

mary

can someone give me a short lesson on what all of these abbreviations mean?  I am lost!

cocobars

Hi mary!

LOL!  I had the same problem when I came here.  Some of them I still can't figure out.  DIL= Daughter in Law, SIL - Son In Law, FIL = either Father in Law, but could also mean Family In Law, DDIL = Distant Daughter in Law, CDIL = Close Daughter in Law, OS = Oldest Son, YS = Youngest Son, DS = Dear Son, DH = Dear Husband, DD = Dear Daughter,  did I leave anything out?

FOO = I can't help you with this one!  Foo Man Choo?????  is all I think everytime I see it (or fool).

I have to go but will be back later!

Pen

Some of them are pretty creative. I have a hard time figuring them out myself, but I'm getting better. It's a whole new world in here :)

FOO is "family of origin"
GK or GC - grandkid or grandchild
I use DDD sometimes - "dear disabled daughter"
IMHO - In my humble opinion
or IMO - In my opinion
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

cocobars

Thanks Pen!

I always looked at IMO and thought "I might offer."  LOL!

cocobars

I don't want to make anyone mad, but there is something I've TRULY have been wondering about the abbreviations.  This is a serious question and I'm not trying to be funny or offend anyone, but I thought maybe people use the abbreviations because their typing is slow.  Is that how they got started?

luise.volta

C/C - Would you put that data under Resources or General, too? (Please?)
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

cocobars

Quote from: luise.volta on February 25, 2010, 04:25:28 PM
C/C - Would you put that data under Resources or General, too? (Please?)

;D DONE!

luise.volta

Yippee - Yea! Thank you!!  Pinging that magic keyboard of yours!!! ;D ;D
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

cocobars


luise.volta

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama