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Can You Get Past Fear?

Started by cocobars, January 13, 2010, 05:58:37 am

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cremebrulee

I would love, love, love to come back on this site and tell all you women that my DIL and I have spoken and discussed our issues, and we have decided to put everything behind us...but I doubt very much that would happen.
I've spoken out of anger, hurt and frustration...but I wouldn't ever slam the door in her face...sorry I made that comment....

cocobars

Oh, creme.  I really do understand.  Maybe I wasn't clear enough! 

I was just looking for positive ways of helping eachother find THAT RELATIONSHIP we want.  I'm sort of an optimistic person.  It doesn't mean I don't say bad things when I'm angry, and I understand where you are coming from (all too well).  I really do hope that someday you come back on this site and tell us all something about that cracked door opening!  It would be time to celebrate!  It would give us all such hope in our own relationships (or lack thereof!) :-[

cocobars

I have a friend at work who is a pessimist.  She says it's easier because you don't get disappointed or hurt.  I guess I don't care about the hurt.  Yes, we get hurt more often because of our "hopes," but I see the payoff!  The light at the end of the tunnel (so to speak).  The hurt is soooo worth even that dim light over there that I almost missed...


cocobars

That DIL that ....   almost..... has that glow, that intelligence, that heart.

That's the light here.  I was a light like that for someone else to reach.  I wish she was still here so that I could hug her!  So that I could tell her what I've seen!  She has probably known it anyway!

Invisible

cocobars,

You are so sweet.... Sometimes a duck is just a duck. Maybe you want it to be a turkey but it just wasn't meant to be. We all want a good relationship with our DILs even if it for selfish motives.

I am so glad I met all of you so I can vent my frustration. I have tolerated my DIL's vulgarity. I would never say anything negative to her, fear she would never allow my to see my GD again. Only in this forum can I be honest. Thank you all....


Quote from: cocobars on January 13, 2010, 12:21:59 pm
Again, I don't want to upset anyone or throw blame in any direction.  I was just trying to start a new way of looking at our DIL's.  A more positive outlook toward them.

Maybe there is something we're missing.

2chickiebaby

Ivisible...you are such a dear heart in every single way.  I am so glad to have you here :)