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TOGETHER WE CAN RAISE OUR SELF ESTEEM

Started by greeneyes100, December 30, 2009, 04:00:25 am

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greeneyes100

Time for some postive imput girls. How can we change our lives. How can we have great self esteem???? It is time to stop the abuse. It is time to take back our power.  The old sayng is    When the going gets tough the tough get going. Do you agree it is time to make the change, to make yourself count. Enough is enough. We dont have to become angry or resentful, just loving ourselves, caring for ourselves and letting our love ones know what we will accept and what we will not accept. When we do we must stand by our words and then we will earn the respect we want and deserve even if it takes a long time to get from those we love, if we dont we will respect ourselves which is more important. Once the decisioin is made you will feel so much better about youself. I know because that is where I am...looking for your imput   D


greeneyes100


2chickiebaby

I meant, Okay....we need to be more positive and stronger like you said...

greeneyes100

please I am not trying to be smart, I am 61 years of age with 4 children and 10 grandchildren. Believe me if we do not honour,care and love ourselves we will always accept being abused. I have to be honest I do not accept that any more from my children or others. I came to this forum with a question, I read what was said and I took action,because I wanted a better way of dealing with my problems,which I found on this site, it was a good sounding board which I needed to clear my thoughts, my mind and now I am dealing with my children and DILs the only way that is good for Me. I can only speak for myself. I have distanced myself from all that have taken advantage,abused,belittled,disrespected so that I can have a more peaceful life. Because I care about my life and I care about me.  D

2chickiebaby

Greeneyes,
I know you're not being smart....I agree with you!!  We need to focus on ourselves more.  So sorry if what I said came out wrong...!!!  I'm with you :)

greeneyes100

thanks, I truly appreciate your reply. What I have learnt is to only allow yourself a small amount of time per day to concentrate on the problems in your life. I set a time say 3.30pm until 4pm to think about my personal probs. then I get on with my life. I have spent more time on this site LOL because I can see some people are so stuck on their problems and not getting on with living. does that make sense? that is why I asked about goals for 2010. that is why I mentioned self esteem. we have to keep living with all or any problems that will come up in our lives, we can not only just concentrate on them otherwise we are not living a full life.

2chickiebaby

I understand...and you're right.  I guess I need help on how to begin.  Thank you!!!!

Ask Jenny, she'll know the answers. :)

just2baccepted

Quote from: greeneyes100 on December 30, 2009, 05:41:23 am
please I am not trying to be smart, I am 61 years of age with 4 children and 10 grandchildren. Believe me if we do not honour,care and love ourselves we will always accept being abused. I have to be honest I do not accept that any more from my children or others. I came to this forum with a question, I read what was said and I took action,because I wanted a better way of dealing with my problems,which I found on this site, it was a good sounding board which I needed to clear my thoughts, my mind and now I am dealing with my children and DILs the only way that is good for Me. I can only speak for myself. I have distanced myself from all that have taken advantage,abused,belittled,disrespected so that I can have a more peaceful life. Because I care about my life and I care about me.  D


Greeneyes I'm so impressed with you b/c you do want to feel better.  Me too.  It sounds to me as though you are really trying and putting forth much effort to change your situation or your feelings.  I think when we're in such a situation as ours the only thing we can do is work on ourselves so that we are the ones who can feel better.  I know I have given my MIL/FIL too much power over my own self esteem b/c I knew that they don't approve of me.  But I realized the only people I have to impress are God, myself, and my DH.   I try not to cuss but I've found myself saying at least once a day "who gives a flying flip what MIL/FIL think about me!!!!!"  It feels good to say it!

greeneyes100

Wishing every one a peaceful, loving New Year

2chickiebaby

you too, Greeneyes...(I have green eyes too!)  hoping your new year will be blessed with peace.  :)

mom2

Quote from: just2baccepted on December 30, 2009, 11:40:03 am
Quote from: greeneyes100 on December 30, 2009, 05:41:23 am
please I am not trying to be smart, I am 61 years of age with 4 children and 10 grandchildren. Believe me if we do not honour,care and love ourselves we will always accept being abused. I have to be honest I do not accept that any more from my children or others. I came to this forum with a question, I read what was said and I took action,because I wanted a better way of dealing with my problems,which I found on this site, it was a good sounding board which I needed to clear my thoughts, my mind and now I am dealing with my children and DILs the only way that is good for Me. I can only speak for myself. I have distanced myself from all that have taken advantage,abused,belittled,disrespected so that I can have a more peaceful life. Because I care about my life and I care about me.  D


Greeneyes I'm so impressed with you b/c you do want to feel better.  Me too.  It sounds to me as though you are really trying and putting forth much effort to change your situation or your feelings.  I think when we're in such a situation as ours the only thing we can do is work on ourselves so that we are the ones who can feel better.  I know I have given my MIL/FIL too much power over my own self esteem b/c I knew that they don't approve of me.  But I realized the only people I have to impress are God, myself, and my DH.   I try not to cuss but I've found myself saying at least once a day "who gives a flying flip what MIL/F!!!!!"  It feels good to say it!
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Just2b and greeneyes,
I'm with ya both ! I am sick of being used, abused and walked on.. no more crying and begging for me.
This is a new year and I am gonna be kind to myself this time around !! plus " who gives a flying flip what my son and dil think of me !!!! ( I love it j2b ) and it does feel good to say it !.. by the way.. my eyes are green too !! Happy new years Ladies !!!!

greeneyes100

there is a saying by positive thinking people
WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU IT IS NONE OF YOUR  BUSINESS
another
YOU CAN PLEASE SOME OF THE PEOPLE SOME OF THE TIME BUT NOT ALL OF THE PEOPLE ALL OF THE TIME
another
WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH THE TOUGH GET GOING

greeneyes100

Look for the good in life and appreciate the small things,take time to smell the roses

mom2

Greeneyes,
I think you are so right on !!
I love my kids as much as the next mom but don't want to be their punching bag anymore !!! I think I have already accomplished this though. I told my ds/dil, that rather than being treated with disrespect I would prefer not to see them anymore ( them... him too ) I've had it ! 
I don't get the disrespect and arguing anymore.. I don't see them very often but there is peace so it's okay by me.

I'm with ya  green.