GF Did Not Respond to email for a convenient time to visit baby GD

[sesamejane]

Well, it seems unanimous - going  uninvited will only make things worse imho. 

Hugs triplelace

[Keys Girl]

Triplelace, I understand how you feel.   Some of us have such a sense of urgency, that is is nearly impossible to get past it, it becomes a type of obsession.  I say this because a few years ago when the rift happened between MIL and myself, I was hammering ds day after day, to get a way to fix the problem.  It was ugly, for a long time.  At one point, he told me, 'Ruth, the problem with you is you want everything in life to happen in your time frame, and I'm sorry but this is one of those many things that isn't going to happen that way'.  This is very hard to accept in life.  But the sooner we come to terms with it the better.  We can't 'make' another person want to reconcile, love, forgive, give, take, talk, work, eat, study, and on and on.  I've had to learn to shush down my drive to make something happen, and tolerate the feelings of not getting what I wanted.  The old irish saying, ' honey your wants would fill up a paddock and come up weeds!'.  ...well, you just have to wait precious one.  Every time you try to force, you push the goal farther back.  Wait for the world to turn around in your favor.  And have faith that that time will come.

Ruth, this is one of the most insightful posts that I have read here, I'll keep your advice in mind andwait for the world to turn in my favour.  Thank you.

[maxine]

I also agree with the others. It would be a big mistake just to turn up and you will probably make the whole situation worse. I can sympathise with you as you probably feel you  ought to be doing something and are finding it hard just to stand back, but please dont rush into a confrontation which you will more than likely regret.

good luck and have patience.

[triplelace]

thank you, like the blue rose