Pam - I think his expectations must be much lower than mine, because no, he didn't notice or say anything.
The thing is, it's pretty 'usual' for us (and them) to 'save up' gifts and give them, in person, the next time we see each other (the reason we once received our Christmas presents from the IL's the following June). So, to DH, the fact that they texted his phone on my birthday was enough. If he thought about it at all, it was probably to think that they would catch me next time and then he dismissed it completely. And he's not a scorekeeper to say "Oh you spent $400 on ME for my birthday, but you didn't get Scoop ANYTHING for her birthday?" Maybe it's because he's the Golden One and was never the one who was slighted, so he doesn't look for it? Who knows?
So, for laughs, here's my list of the birthday gifts the IL's have given me. (Note my birthday is mid-July and I've been with DH since 1997, and the IL's are not hurting for money - see above where they regularly spend big bucks on DH).
2010 - fashion jewelry necklace (not my style AT ALL), unwrapped, given in June, no call 'around' my birthday
2009 - a call to wish me happy birthday (on the wrong day), a fashion jewelry necklace, unwrapped, given at Thanksgiving
2008 - a call to wish me happy birthday (on the wrong day), a 'gift with purchase' cosmetic bag, unwrapped, given at Thanksgiving
2007 - no phone call, a home shopping network wind spinner thing, given (unwrapped, no card) in their driveway, as we were leaving, in June
2006 - "gift with purchase" purse given at Family Reunion in August, I actually liked it and used it but it fell apart within 6 mos, I should also note that others were given similar gifts as "goody bags", but mine was my birthday present
2005 - card, no gift - this was also the year the IL's spent at least $400 on DH's birthday and bought him a massaging chair, that we had to figure out how to get into our car to drive 4 hours to get home
2004 - 2 long, frilly, lacy, long sleeved nightgowns - MIL said she thought they would be good for nursing (I was pregnant) - they were NOT nursing nightgowns, there was no access from the top, I don't know, was I supposed to stick the baby under there? or use it as a tent? I still don't know. They got donated pretty fast.
Before that, I wasn't keeping track, so I don't remember. I know I got a plant one year and cut flowers once. I also received a beautiful cotton blanket once. And one time they gave me cash to go to the casino, except I hate casinos and lost some of it so fast it made my head spin. So I doubled my money by folding it in half and putting it BACK in my pocket and bought myself something really cool with it (that I have to this day).
Please note that I have always accepted their gifts graciously and thanked the IL's for them. I've come to accept that MIL is really terrible at choosing gifts. She buys 10 of the same thing and gives it to everyone (GMIL, aunts, her DD, me, one for herself, of course). She has made zero effort get to know me and figure out what I actually might LIKE.
And yes, I know that it's wrong to keep score like this, to have a record of every "thing" MIL has done to me. But I don't want to forget, I don't want to sweep it all under the rug and get smacked in the face the next time (been there, done that). I don't want the day to come for DH to say "Why are you so angry at them? What have they ever done to you?" and NOT have a list as long as my arm of all of the things I've "put up with" over the years.