So we got back from a weekend at the IL's and I have a question.
When I was dreading the visit, someone recommended that I bring a big bouquet of flowers. I liked the idea, so I turned it into me bringing an Easter Bunny cake. I had DH talk to his M, to make sure it was okay. I brought the cakes, the icing & the candies and DD, DN, MIL and I put it all together. I made sure to involve MIL, and at the end, we took pictures of the girls and the cake and another one of the girls, me, MIL and the cake. I tried, I really tried.
So in the meantime, MIL had ordered an ice-cream cake and ended up with a huge ice-cream cake AND the Easter Bunny cake (and we were only 9 people). It totally came down to "loyalties", I served up "my" cake (per MIL's directions) and she served up "her" cake. The kids had the bunny cake and SIL & BIL had some of each.
I guess if we were on a good footing, I wouldn't think anything of it, but as it was between us, I was mad about it. I think that no smal part of it is that I'm noticing a trend where MIL won't eat food I've made. I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm dirty.
Conversely, in the sake of fairness, my MIL has no concept of how much food to make for 9 people. (I shudder to think of the food they must throw away.) So maybe she didn't think it would be too much? She didn't send any food home with SIL and we didn't take any either. (For the record: it was offered for us to bring the 2/3 of the bunny cake back, but it was at the last minute, the car was packed, we were heading out the door. To me it was a stalling tactic to delay our leaving - as usual.)
So what do you think? Understandable? Or rude?